The 5000 foot view of the lives around us reveals a surprising fact. There are 1000's of people who have experienced sorrow, pain, anguish, and more. They are just like us. It's not just about what happens to all of us. It's about what we do with what happends to us, and that process takes some very harsh and painful work. Even more important, we can't do it entirely on our own. We will need help. The first CHOICE must be to realize we need the help and seek that help. If we don't find a way to move forward with our sorrow, the sorrow will make the choice for us.