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What happens when a friendship you thought would last forever… just ends?

In today’s episode, I’m sharing something I never expected to go through in my 40s—the sudden loss of a best friend of many years (a span of decades). This wasn’t a slow drift or a mutual fading out. We were talking every day, sharing life, making plans… and then it ended in two emails.

No conversation. No closure. Just silence.

In this episode, I walk through what that experience has actually felt like—the confusion, the grief, the disbelief—and why losing a close friend can be just as painful (if not more) than a romantic breakup.

I also reflect on some of the things I’ve been learning along the way:

• the moments I ignored when I didn’t feel fully supported
• how different attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant) can shape relationships
• why closure doesn’t always come from the other person
• and what it looks like to rebuild your life when a core relationship disappears

This isn’t a perfectly wrapped-up story. I’m still in it. Still processing. Still healing.

But if you’ve ever lost a close friend and struggled to make sense of it—you are not alone.

In this episode:

• What it’s like to lose a best friend suddenly after years of daily connection
• Why this kind of heartbreak feels so disorienting
• The “red flags” I didn’t fully recognize at the time
• Anxious vs. avoidant dynamics (and how they might show up in friendships)
• The reality of healing when there’s no clear explanation
• Rebuilding identity and connection after a major friendship loss

If This Resonates

If you’ve ever experienced a friendship breakup, I’d love to hear from you. These kinds of losses aren’t talked about enough, and you’re not as alone as it can feel.