Wendy, part 2: Behind closed doors with a con.

You will love getting to know more about Wendy in part 2 of our forbidden interview with her. We hear more about Wendy’s perspective and motivations as we dive deeper into what family life was really like behind Dragonfly’s carefully crafted mask.

Wendy paints a clear picture of what it meant to share a home with someone who was at best, chronically lazy, and at worst, dangerously violent. She reflects on raising their two daughters while juggling the full domestic load, cooking, cleaning, caregiving, even building their house, all while Dragonfly spent most of his time glued to his phone. Community members also noticed his petulance, the arguments, the way he’d dramatically cut people off over nothing.

At the same time, Dragonfly was telling her elaborate stories about having Indigenous Quandamooka relatives on Minjerribbah, North Stradbroke Island. But like so many of his claims, the details never aligned. Over a span of eight years, Wendy never met a single one of these family members, despite multiple trips to the Island with Dragonfly. This is in stark contrast to Dragonfly’s stories he would tell other partners.

Wendy explains how the inconsistencies piled up and that by the time Jules reached out to explain that she’d discovered Dragonfly was a con, Wendy was not surprised in the slightest.

Wendy also reflects on the turning point before she even left him, choosing independence, following her own goals, and even building their home largely on her own while he “worked on the business.” Wendy’s spark of reclaiming her path began long before the relationship ended.

Looking back from a healthier, grounded, flourishing life, Wendy shares what it means to rebuild after coercive control and domestic violence. Her world has expanded in every direction, professionally, personally and creatively, in ways that weren’t possible under Dragonfly’s emotional weight. Her story is not just a record of what she survived, but a testament to what she reclaimed.