What Didn’t Break Me

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Troy Haslinger — TEDx speaker, medical sales professional, author, ultramarathon runner, and charity founder.

Troy is the author of Beautifully Dysfunctional, a raw memoir that explores the messy, complicated, and deeply human parts of life. His work weaves together resilience, mental health, addiction and recovery, success and failure, and the search for meaning when life does not unfold the way we imagined. What stands out is his willingness to be completely unfiltered and honest, reminding people they are not alone even when their lives feel anything but put together.

In April 2011, Troy had what looked like the perfect life: number one in the country in medical sales, a President’s Club trip to the Caribbean, happily married with two young kids. Within 24 hours everything shifted. He was placed on a performance improvement plan. Fifteen minutes later his mother called to say his sister Holly had colon cancer — later diagnosed as stage 4 metastatic with 13 tumors on her liver.

He shut down emotionally. The numbness turned into anger and then into alcohol addiction. Holly passed after 18 months. In one of the most powerful moments he shares, she sat up in the hospital — in complete organ failure — to brush her daughter’s hair one last time before falling asleep and never waking again.

Within a six-month window Troy also went through a divorce and lost his job. He channeled his energy into founding a charity that gave adults with advanced cancer final “escapes” — trips to Disney World, Hawaii, ball games — complete with professional photographers so families could keep lasting memories. For four years he ran the charity while in bipolar mania (sleeping only two to three hours a night), fueled by alcohol. He was eventually fired from his own organization.

In this conversation Troy shares:

• The day his “perfect” life collapsed

• Losing his sister Holly and the final act of love she gave her daughter

• How grief turned into addiction

• Starting a charity while still deeply broken

• Bipolar mania, alcohol, and the long road of recovery

• The message of Beautifully Dysfunctional — that messy does not mean worthless

If you have ever tried to outrun pain, numbed yourself, or wondered whether your broken pieces could still create something meaningful, this episode offers hard truth and unexpected hope.

#TroyHaslinger #BeautifullyDysfunctional #WhatDidntBreakMe #AddictionRecovery #Grief #CancerCaregiver #MentalHealth

Connect with Troy Haslinger

Website:https://authortroyhaslinger.com/

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – The day before everything changed (April 2011)

2:30 – Performance improvement plan and sister’s cancer diagnosis

4:00 – Stage 4 metastatic colon cancer and emotional shutdown

5:00 – Holly’s final act: brushing her daughter’s hair

7:00 – Six months of loss: sister, divorce, and job

8:30 – Starting the charity and numbing with alcohol

9:30 – Bipolar mania and running on two to three hours of sleep

10:30+ – Fired from his own charity and the longer recovery journey

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Bryan Thompson — a California trust and estate attorney with Rod of Iron Trust and Estate Councils.

Brian helps families navigate some of the most consequential decisions they will ever face: estate planning, aging parents, conservatorship, trusts, and the complicated family dynamics that surface when money, responsibility, and loss enter the picture. What makes his approach distinctive is that he does not see estate planning as merely about property or money. He sees it as an act of stewardship — preparing for the unexpected and protecting the people and relationships that matter most.

Raised in the church and once drawn to ministry because he wanted to guide and support people, Brian found that estate law offered a powerful balance between practicing law and ministering to families in their most vulnerable moments. His first case was a neighbor’s issue; more cases followed, and he discovered his calling.

In this conversation Bryan shares:

• ​ Why the conversations families avoid often explode during crisis
• ​ How the death of a matriarch or patriarch can leave adult siblings without a shared decision-making foundation
• ​ Why encouraging adult children to build relationships with each other may matter more than the documents themselves
• ​ The dangerous misconception that estate planning is only for the wealthy or the elderly
• ​ How default legal rules (usually bloodline) fail modern, complex families
• ​ Why even modest assets — including digital ones like a YouTube channel — need intentional planning
• ​ The importance of regularly reviewing plans as laws change

If you have ever postponed “the talk,” assumed estate planning is for someone else, or watched a family fracture after a loss, this episode offers clear, practical wisdom and a more human way to prepare.

#BryanThompson #EstatePlanning #Stewardship #WhatDidntBreakMe #FamilyProtection #TrustAndEstate #AgingParents

Connect with Bryan Thompson

Website: https://www.rodofironlawfirm.com/

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – From ministry calling to estate law

3:00 – What grief reveals in families

4:00 – Why adult siblings often struggle after a parent dies

5:00 – Building relationships between adult children

6:00 – Why “estate planning is only for the rich” is dangerous

7:30 – Default rules, bloodlines, and complex modern families

8:30 – Planning for the unexpected (accidents, lawsuits)

9:30 – Digital assets and YouTube channels

10:30+ – Why plans need regular review as laws change

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Dr. Guldal— psychologist, naturopath, medicine woman, and founder of Walk Sacred, a movement dedicated to helping people become more conscious, compassionate, connected, and fully alive.

For more than two decades she has explored the intersection of trauma, healing, neuroscience, consciousness, mysticism, and spiritual embodiment, creating a grounded yet experiential bridge between science and spirituality. Through her healing work, teaching, and life transmissions she has touched tens of thousands of lives, inviting people beyond understanding ideas and into actual transformation.

Born in Turkey and raised in the United States, she grew up darker-skinned with a name few could pronounce. Feeling different without a community that shared her experience led to deep shame, bullying, physical assaults, and a lifetime of questioning what was happening in the homes of those who hurt her. Her strong family intuition made the pain of others almost unbearable, fueling a quiet determination to make a difference.

During the AIDS crisis her best friend, a gay man, asked her on his deathbed to “save the family” and be there for others the way she had been for him. She said yes and spent ten years on the front lines, attending more than 200 funerals. She witnessed both extraordinary strength and profound abandonment, and saw clearly the difference between those who found acceptance or a deeper source and those who remained in anger.

The cumulative stress led to a total immunological breakdown. She was bedridden for three years, nearly 300 pounds, lost her hair, and came within a week of dying. During that healing period Native American medicine people, acupuncturists, energy healers, and others appeared. Elders initiated her as a medicine woman so she could bring forward mystical healing. She could no longer limit herself to talk therapy alone.

In this conversation she shares:

• ​ Growing up different and the roots of shame
• ​ Ten years on the front lines of the AIDS crisis
• ​ Nearly dying from the stress and the healers who arrived
• ​ Being initiated as a medicine woman
• ​ Why healing can leave people stuck in survival or labels
• ​ Moving from survival into meaning, remembrance, and joy

If you have ever felt that surviving is not enough and that there must be a way to become more fully alive, this episode offers both hard-won wisdom and profound hope.

#Drguldul #WalkSacred #WhatDidntBreakMe #TraumaHealing #MedicineWoman #AIDSCrisis #SpiritualEmbodiment

Connect with Guldal

Website: https://drguldal.com/

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/drguldal

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drguldal/

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – Born in Turkey, raised in the U.S., feeling different

3:00 – Shame, bullying, assaults, and strong intuition

4:00 – The AIDS crisis and her best friend’s request

5:00 – Ten years on the front lines and over 200 funerals

6:00 – Immunological breakdown and nearly dying

7:00 – Healers arrive and initiation as a medicine woman

8:00 – Beyond talk therapy and mystical healing

9:00 – When healing leaves people stuck in survival

10:00+ – Remembrance, joy, and choosing not to stay broken

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Dr. Matt Singer — holistic physician, educator, author, speaker, and co-founder of Hearts Initiative.

For more than 20 years, Dr. Singer has helped people navigate chronic illness, emotional wounds, anxiety, depression, and addiction. He developed an approach called Timeline Integration that explores the relationship between the brain, emotions, and physical health, and has spent years studying the deep connections between mind, body, and spirit. His work also supports individuals and families affected by addiction, bringing together medicine, spirituality, education, and a strong belief in the body’s capacity for restoration.

As a child he was chronically ill — strep throat and other ailments nearly every month — and was repeatedly treated with antibiotics until his tonsils were removed. The medications often made him feel worse, and even as a young boy he sensed there had to be another way. Spiritual gifts began to emerge (including the ability to hear people’s thoughts), which mediums in his mother’s circle helped him understand.

That early questioning led him away from a purely allopathic path and into holistic medicine. Instead of only treating surface symptoms, he focuses on identifying the original stressor — whether virus, toxin, metal, chemical, or emotional imprint — that the brain still remembers and that continues to affect the body years later.

In this conversation he shares:

• Childhood chronic illness and the limits of conventional treatment

• Discovering spiritual gifts and a deeper view of the body

• Choosing holistic medicine and developing Timeline Integration

• Confronting the ego and limiting beliefs (“I’m a failure”)

• Using meditation to see across timelines

• Ho’oponopono and releasing past traumas

• Practical starting points such as breath work for deeper self-connection

If you have sensed that true healing requires more than treating symptoms, this episode offers a grounded, expansive perspective on restoration.

#DrMattSinger #HeartsInitiative #TimelineIntegration #HolisticMedicine #WhatDidntBreakMe #MindBodySpirit #AddictionRecovery

Connect with Dr Matt Singer

Website:https://drmattsinger.com/

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/mattbackdoc?igsh=ODB4M3d6a2Q0ZWg5

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – Chronically sick as a child and questioning medication

3:00 – Spiritual gifts emerge and guidance from mediums

4:00 – Choosing holistic over allopathic medicine

5:00 – Timeline Integration and finding the original cause

6:00 – Confronting the ego and limiting beliefs

7:30 – Meditation, timelines, and the soul’s journey

9:00 – Ho’oponopono and releasing past traumas

10:00 – Breath work and practical daily habits for deeper connection

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Josie Warren — expert in emotional medicine, clinical psychology graduate, educator, and speaker whose work explores the powerful relationship between our emotional state and our experience of health and healing.

Josie studied clinical psychology at the University of Denver (MA, 2013), previously worked as a children’s therapist at the Betty Ford Center, and now teaches programs centered on emotional awareness, resilience, emotional intelligence, and personal well-being. Her work challenges us to stop seeing ourselves as broken and instead ask what our experiences might be trying to tell us.

At age 15 her father — her guardian and best friend — went into a coma and died after years of struggling with stress, alcohol, and unresolved grief of his own. The loss destroyed her world. She carried the deep grief, tried to numb it with alcohol and self-destructive behaviors, and felt profoundly lost.

Six months later her body began to break down. She developed rheumatoid arthritis, then chronic anxiety, depression, ADD, and an eating disorder. Over the following years more autoimmune conditions followed — Raynaud’s, eczema, lupus, Hashimoto’s, Graves’, CVID — until by age 28 she had roughly eight autoimmune diseases and was showing signs of multiple sclerosis.

Even while working as a psychologist at a grief and loss center, the pain of her father’s death lived in her heart. Only later did she fully understand the direct link between suppressed grief and physical illness.

In this conversation Josie shares:

• Losing her father at 15 and the years of unresolved grief that followed

• How her body developed multiple autoimmune diseases

• The “six-month rule” connecting grief/loss to the onset of chronic illness

• How the nervous system reads emotional threat as physical threat

• Moving from seeing herself as broken to listening to what the pain was trying to say

• Finding a path to becoming happy, healthy, and grief-free

If you have ever wondered whether unprocessed emotional pain could be connected to physical illness, this episode offers both personal truth and a hopeful new framework for healing.

#JosieWarren #EmotionalMedicine #AutoimmuneDisease #GriefAndHealth #WhatDidntBreakMe #EmotionalAwareness #Resilience

Connect with Josie Warren

Website:https://hashimotosfix.com/

YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@theautoimmuneexpert

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – Losing her father at age 15

3:00 – Carrying deep grief and feeling lost

4:00 – Body breakdown begins: first autoimmune disease

5:00 – Multiple autoimmune conditions over the years

6:00 – Working as a psychologist while still grieving

7:00 – The link between suppressed grief and physical illness

8:00 – The six-month rule and emotional tipping points

9:30 – Fight-or-flight and nervous system dysregulation

11:00+ – From broken to listening: a new understanding of healing

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Neal Tricarico — speaker and guide for post-traumatic growth who helps people move beyond survival toward courage, meaning, and a way forward when life changes forever.

After more than two decades working alongside Tony Robbins, Neal now dedicates his work to helping others carry profound pain without allowing it to become the end of their story. Through what he calls the Endurance Way, he offers a perspective on resilience that is honest, grounded, and deeply human.

Neal and his wife lost their son Anthony (“Ant”) to suicide in March 2024. Anthony was a brilliant young man with a heart of gold who had been diagnosed with high-functioning autism at age seven. During the isolation of COVID he fell into a deep depression. Despite two years of intensive efforts to support and protect him, they were unable to save him.

After he was found and revived by first responders, he spent nine weeks in the hospital with significant brain injuries. Neal and his wife stayed by his side every day, supported by an outpouring of community love, prayer circles, and the practical care of Rady Children’s Hospital and the Ronald McDonald House. Eventually they made the heartbreaking decision to set him free.

Out of that unimaginable loss they founded the Endurance Movement, a nonprofit dedicated to closing the gap between neurodiversity and suicide so no teen ever has to feel unseen. Neal also speaks powerfully about post-traumatic growth — the possibility that when purpose becomes greater than pain, transformation can occur through service.

In this conversation Neal shares:

• The before-and-after of losing a child to suicide

• Supporting a son with high-functioning autism

• The nine-week hospital vigil and the decision to let go

• The power of community and “joining of faiths” prayer circles

• Founding the Endurance Movement

• Reframing grief as love that still has places to go

• Post-traumatic growth versus post-traumatic stress

If you are carrying heavy loss, supporting someone who is struggling, or seeking a path that honors both the pain and the possibility of purpose, this episode offers profound honesty and hope.

Trigger note: This episode discusses suicide loss and mental health. Please care for yourself while listening.

#NealTricarico #EnduranceMovement #PostTraumaticGrowth #WhatDidntBreakMe #SuicideLoss #Neurodiversity #GriefAndPurpose

Connect with Neal Tricarico

Website:https://www.nealtricarico.com/

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/nealtricarico/

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nealtricarico/

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – Losing son Anthony to suicide

2:30 – High-functioning autism diagnosis and challenges

3:30 – Depression during COVID and discovering suicidal ideation

5:00 – The day everything changed (March 24, 2024)

5:30 – Nine weeks in the hospital and community support

7:00 – The decision to set him free

7:30 – Founding the Endurance Movement

8:00 – Discovering post-traumatic growth

9:00 – Carrying pain while still choosing to live

10:00+ – Language around suicide and mental health disease

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Dror Ben Ami — author and scholar whose work invites us to look at the Bible through a very different lens.

Dror studied comparative literature in both the United States and Israel and was deeply influenced by the writings of scholar and mystic Maurice Nicoll. He is the author of two recently released books, The Vineyard and The Final Jubilee, both of which explore biblical metaphors and challenge long-held assumptions in Christian and Jewish interpretation.

His work asks readers to slow down, look beneath familiar words and stories, and consider whether meanings have been sitting in plain sight for centuries.

In this conversation Dror shares:

• How Maurice Nicoll opened his eyes to spiritual rather than purely literal readings of Scripture

• A chain of metaphors beginning with the Tree of Knowledge (fruit = knowledge, eating = studying, kitchen = school, table = classroom)

• Why he argues Jesus was not a carpenter but a plowman and sower of seeds

• Linguistic clues across Aramaic, Hebrew, and Greek

• Connections to Isaiah’s “swords into plowshares,” the parable of the sower, Elijah and Elisha, and the imagery of the yoke

• An invitation to read familiar stories with fresh eyes

If you have ever sensed that the Bible contains deeper layers than the surface reading, this episode offers a thoughtful, provocative exploration.

Shalom from Israel.

#DrorBenAmi #TheVineyard #TheFinalJubilee #BibleMetaphors #WhatDidntBreakMe #MauriceNicoll #BiblicalInterpretation

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – Studying comparative literature and discovering Maurice Nicoll

3:00 – Spiritual vs. literal truth in biblical stories

3:30 – The Tree of Knowledge metaphor chain (fruit, eating, kitchen, table)

6:00 – Mary, Martha, and going directly to the Word of God

7:30 – The claim that Jesus was a plowman, not a carpenter

8:30 – Linguistic clues: nagar, tekton, and plowman

10:00 – Isaiah’s plowshares, the sower of seeds, and the yoke

12:00+ – Elijah, Elisha, and further evidence for the plowman reading

this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Caron Grossman — registered nurse, storyteller, TEDx speaker, breathwork facilitator, and author of the memoir Listen to Your Heart Song: Navigating the Unexpected.

Caron’s work centers on turning lived experience into honest, life-giving stories. Through her writing, speaking, and one-on-one work she explores resilience, recovery, self-advocacy, women’s heart health, intuition, and the courage to truly listen to ourselves.

When she was 13 her mother died of a heart attack that had been misdiagnosed as a hiatal hernia — a common experience for women whose symptoms differ from the classic “chest pain, left arm” presentation. That loss stayed with her.

On December 21, 2021, while chatting on the phone with a friend, Caron felt a strange electric-current sensation travel from the base of her jaw up to her ears, followed by a dull ache at the base of her neck. Nothing felt like a textbook heart attack, yet she knew something was happening in her body. After carefully assessing herself she called 911 and reported the classic symptoms even though she didn’t have them — because she refused to risk not being heard.

She was having a heart attack despite two decades of recovery from food and alcohol addiction, excellent health markers, and a carefully tended lifestyle.

In this conversation Caron shares:

• The sudden loss of her mother and the lifelong awareness it created

• The subtle, easy-to-dismiss signals her body gave her

• Why women’s heart-attack symptoms are often missed or minimized

• The decision to call 911 and advocate for herself

• How to practice listening to intuition and bodily cues

• Living fully after an unexpected medical crisis

If you’ve ever ignored a quiet signal from your body or struggled to trust your own knowing, this episode offers both practical wisdom and powerful permission.

#CaronGrossman #ListenToYourHeartSong #WomensHeartHealth #WhatDidntBreakMe #Intuition #SelfAdvocacy #HeartAttackSurvivor

Connect with Caron Grossman

Website:http://www.carongrossman.com/

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – The day the body demanded attention (Dec 21, 2021)

2:30 – Mother’s misdiagnosed heart attack at age 13

3:30 – Subtle jaw and neck sensations that didn’t feel like a heart attack

4:30 – Calling 911 and advocating for herself

5:30 – Why women’s heart-attack symptoms are often missed

7:00 – Living a healthy life yet still having a heart attack

8:00 – Learning to listen to the body and intuition

9:30 – Practical ways to stop dismissing inner signals

11:00+ – Choosing how to live after the unexpected

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Heather — spirit-led healing coach, Bible teacher, author, and host of the Heal with God podcast (ranked in the top 2% globally).

Heather helps Christians who love Jesus but still feel emotionally stuck develop a deeper ability to hear God, grow in emotional and spiritual health, and move toward confidence, clarity, and peace. Through her Heal with God roadmap, she combines biblical teaching with practical, Spirit-led tools for navigating anxiety, fear, emotional patterns, and personal growth.

Since the age of seven she loved Jesus, served faithfully, prayed, and attended church regularly. On the surface she looked like a content, happy Christian. Privately she battled anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and significant weight struggles. She would cry herself to sleep without understanding why and had normalized those experiences as simply “hormonal” or part of life.

The confusion of loving God yet still feeling stuck became a turning point. She realized the struggle was not God’s will for her — that Jesus died for her to live an abundant, healed life now. She began turning prayer into a two-way conversation, asking God curious questions, and learning to recognize His voice through dreams, repeating numbers, and everyday signs.

In this conversation Heather shares:

• Loving Jesus while privately battling anxiety and depression

• How she normalized emotional pain for years

• The realization that healing and abundance are God’s will

• Turning prayer into a two-way dialogue

• Learning to hear God through dreams, signs, and curiosity

• Practical steps for Christians who feel stuck

If you love God but still feel emotionally stuck, this episode offers honest hope and a clear path forward.

#Heather #HealWithGod #ChristianAnxiety #WhatDidntBreakMe #SpiritualHealing #HearingGod #DepressionAndFaith

Connect with Heather O Brien

Website:https://heatherobrien.net/

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/healwithgodpodcast

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – Loving Jesus since age 7 while privately struggling

2:30 – Anxiety, depression, panic attacks & normalized sadness

4:00 – The confusion of unanswered prayers

5:00 – Realizing the struggle was not God’s will

6:00 – Turning prayer into a two-way conversation

7:00 – Learning to hear God through dreams and signs

8:30 – Getting curious and asking different questions

9:30+ – Advice for those who feel far from God

In this episode of What Didn’t Break Me, Joy sits down with Dr. Christopher Barker — clinical psychologist, speaker, author, and host of the Holding Space podcast.

His work helps people understand psychology in a way that is compassionate, practical, and grounded in science. Christopher explores how our experiences shape relationships, identity, emotional well-being, and physical health, with particular focus on attachment, emotional regulation, resilience, perfectionism, burnout, men’s mental health, and the mind-body connection.

At the heart of his approach is a simple but powerful belief: people are not broken. They are often responding to life in ways that once helped them survive.

Christopher’s own story begins with a father who carried PTSD from the Korean War (then called “shell shock”). His father was in and out of hospitals and in and out of his life for the first three years, then completely absent. As an only child without a father role model, Christopher grew up feeling different and became an adult before his time. Other children naturally brought their problems to him.

He discovered psychology in high school, majored in it in college, and never looked back. Only later, as an adult with children of his own, did he recognize the complex trauma he had lived through — insight that came through reading the work of Ariel Schwartz and began shaping both his personal healing and his writing for others.

In this conversation he shares:

• Growing up with an absent father and unrecognized complex trauma

• How insecure attachment keeps people stuck in unhealthy relationships

• The “giver” identity and why over-giving can lead to burnout

• Why understanding what happened is not the same as healing

• Moving from survival adaptations toward secure connection and self-respect

If you’ve ever felt different, carried invisible wounds from childhood, struggled with attachment, or found yourself giving far more than you receive, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a path forward.

#DrChristopherBarker #HoldingSpace #ComplexTrauma #Attachment #WhatDidntBreakMe #MensMentalHealth #Resilience

Connect with Christopher Barker

Website:http://www.drchristopherbarker.com/

LinkedIn:https://linkedin.com/in/christopher-barker-ph-d-3647b789/

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Chapters

0:00 – Introduction & Welcome

1:30 – How Christopher became a psychologist

2:00 – Father’s PTSD and early absence

3:30 – Growing up as an only child without a role model

4:30 – Discovering complex trauma later in life

5:30 – Attachment styles and toxic relationships

7:00 – Why people stay when they know they should leave

8:00 – Navigating his own difficult season

9:00 – The giver identity and emotional over-giving

10:30+ – Healing beyond understanding