The first two things before action 

"The first thing to do- don't get worked up. For everything happens according to the nature of all things, and in a short time you'll be nobody and nowhere, even as the great emperors Hadrian and Augustus are now. The next thing to do- consider carefully the task at hand for what it is, while remembering that your purpose is to be a good human being. Get straight to doing what nature requires of you, and speak as you see most just and fitting- with kindness, modesty, and sincerity." - Marcus Aurelius. Oh, and make your God damned bed.

If you change your story, you can change your life.