Today we will discuss: What Do I Have to Offer? I recall some years ago while in my mid-twenties, I asked myself; what do I have to offer? Of course this was after several disappointments in relationships that failed. I thought the relationships were actually going somewhere, but I found out that they were very toxic to my mental health and well-being.

Sometimes we find ourselves in this mental state asking different questions of ourselves, because we feel like we are not worthy of anything good. I know this happens in everyone's life at some point, especially with disappointment in relationships, jobs and in life general. The funny thing about disappointment is that it teaches a valuable lesson. That is to search deep within yourself to find out what caused the disappointment? What were you looking for in the relationship that you didn't get? What expectations did you place on the individual that was not rational, or maybe it was rational, and they just didn't measure up to your expectations?

Most disappointmens happen, because of expectations being too high for the individual to achieve. We have to realize that as expectations have been placed on us by our parents, friends, or colleagues, that we struggle to appease them, but it's not in our hearts or it's not our passion.

What do you have to offer? Search your heart and mind, see what makes you tick. Parents may want you to be a doctor, but you may love music, law, science, psychology. You maybe one that wants to make a difference in peoples lives or in your community. It doesn't make you less important, if you chose to be a dog walker or the President, your human and trying to find your place in this world. People can put damaging wounds on others because of their expectations of you. Be the best version of yourself, find your voice and use it.

Galatians 1:10 For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.

I had to come to the reality about my own life. I found myself trying to impress my mother, because of our strained relationship, trying to obtain love or acknowledgement from her, trying to show her that I am worthy of her love. My mind was warped due to me being born from rape, I felt like I had to validate my life, to make it count for something. I finally realized that it was not making me happy, I was miserable, and my heart was hurt because of my expectations. When you get to a place in life and find out just how damaged you are, and why you do certain things, the purpose of them and the outcomes that you hoped for don't manifest, you set yourself up for failure and disillusionment, then you walk away with clarity. You begin to search out ways to better yourself for you and noone else.

Galatians 1:10 is about you not seeking the approval of man, or trying to please man. You will begin to seek approval from the Lord once you start seeking after the plan the Lord has for your life, you'll begin to pray asking him to direct your footsteps, to lead you and guide you on the path he designed for you.

Proverbs 16: 3 commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be establlished.

We all have different gifts, talents, we use them to the best of our abilities, not to be in competition with someone else. Most people have these invisible competitions with others, and they didn't even know there was a competition.

I remember during the holidays our family would come together and sometimes there would be cooking rivals, if someone cooked a dish and a relative opened their dish to give someone a taste the other relative would go to their dish and say no try mine first. It was invisible competition that was not necessary, trying to see who cooked the best, or who would it more of what person's dish than the other. It was maddening. The point is no matter what you are good at or bad at you do have something to offer.

You offer yourself, your expertise, your heart, your love, your kindness, your flaws and all. Just offer yourself and believe me, there is someone that can and will be helped by a gift that the Lord has given you. Trust the process of healing from those disappointments that caused you damage.

As always I hope this episode helps you see that you do have something to offer and that there is truly healing for your mind, body spirit and soul.

Have a wonderful week and know that the Lord loves you and so do I.