Show Notes: erickrheam.com/095

Episode Overview

Life doesn't always unfold the way we plan—and sometimes it hits hard. In this solo episode, Erick shares from personal experience and unpacks five practical principles to help you respond when life punches you in the gut. Whether you're dealing with sudden bad news, a setback, a loss, or a season that feels unfair, this episode will help you move from shock to stability, from confusion to clarity, and from setback to forward motion.

In This Episode, You'll Discover:

• Why "gut-punch moments" can knock you off your routines—and how to regain your footing quickly
• The difference between reacting emotionally and responding intentionally
• How to focus on what you can control when everything feels uncertain
• Why isolation makes hard seasons harder—and how to invite the right support in
• How to turn pain into perspective without pretending it doesn't hurt
• A simple way to take the "next right step" when you don't know what to do next
• How to rebuild with stronger boundaries, clearer priorities, and a more resilient mindset

The Five Principles to Follow When Life Doesn't Go Your Way

Erick walks through five principles you can lean on when life takes an unexpected turn. These aren't clichés—they're stabilizing moves you can practice in real time.

1) Pause and Stabilize

Before you try to solve the entire situation, slow down long enough to regulate your body and emotions. Don't make permanent decisions in a moment of panic. Breathe, name what you're feeling, and give yourself permission to be human.

2) Return to Your Circle of Control

When life feels chaotic, your mind will race to the worst-case scenario. Erick encourages you to bring your focus back to what you can actually influence: your choices, your attitude, your schedule, and your next action. Ask: "What's the next controllable step?"

3) Tell the Truth and Get Support

Hard seasons aren't meant to be carried alone. The goal isn't to perform strength—it's to access strength. Choose a few trusted people, tell the truth about what's going on, and let community do what community is designed to do: help you carry the weight.

4) Extract the Lesson Without Rushing the Healing

There's a difference between meaning-making and minimizing. Erick shares how to look for what a season is teaching you—without forcing yourself to "move on" before you've processed what happened. The question becomes: "What do I want this to produce in me?"

5) Rebuild with Intention

Once the initial shock fades, the real work is rebuilding your life with better systems: clearer boundaries, stronger habits, healthier inputs, and priorities that reflect what matters most. You don't have to waste the pain—you can let it sharpen you.

Key Takeaways

When life punches you in the gut, the goal isn't to pretend you're fine—it's to respond with wisdom. If you stabilize first, focus on what you can control, invite support, learn at the right pace, and rebuild on purpose, you can move through a hard season without letting it define you.

Reflection Question

What is the "gut-punch" you're facing right now—and what is one next controllable step you can take in the next 24 hours?

Final Thought

You don't need a perfect plan to move forward. You need steadiness, support, and one intentional step at a time. Hard seasons can break you—or they can build you. The difference is how you respond.

Resources Mentioned

1. Subscribe to the podcast
2. Rise Above Chaos book
3. Work with Erick
4. Connect with Erick: erickrheam.com
5. Get the Rise Above Chaos Planner

Action Step

• What can you control in the next 24 hours?