Summer can turn parents into nonstop reminder machines. Camp bags, towels, sunscreen, water bottles, library books, and somehow we’re the ones holding the entire plan in our heads. I want to offer a calmer, more effective alternative: trade the next reminder for a problem solving question that helps your child think, plan, and take ownership.

We talk through exactly how to do it with simple language you can use right away. Instead of “Don’t forget your towel,” try “What do you need to bring so you’re ready for swimming today?” Instead of “Pack your camp bag,” ask “What is your plan for getting ready for camp tomorrow?” And when the same item keeps getting forgotten, we explore how one question can spark a real system, not just another round of nagging. This approach supports executive function skills like planning and follow through, while also building confidence and independence.

We also connect it to Jewish parenting values: raising kids who contribute to family and community, keep learning, and grow through experience. Stepping back just enough isn’t doing less, it’s teaching more, because responsibility develops when kids get opportunities to practice and learn from small mistakes.

If this resonates, subscribe to Simply Jewish Parenting, share this with a friend who’s tired of repeating themselves, and leave a review so more families can find it. What’s one reminder you’re ready to replace with a better question?