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In this episode of What He’s Thinking, I break down what is really happening when a man shares a secret fantasy for the first time.

Drawing from my experience in the adult industry, I talk about how men often feel when they open up about desire, what they are actually asking for emotionally, and how partners tend to react. I also share what I have observed through my own interactions with clients and why curiosity, not judgment, is usually the key to honest communication.

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered how to respond when a fantasy is shared and what that moment truly represents beneath the surface.

If you want to explore more conversations like this, you can find Spicy Spectrum's What He’s Thinking on Substack: thespicyspectrum.substack.com

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