17 Minutes

What If You Don't Have To Hold It All Together?


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I believed that if I didn't hold it all together, everything would fall apart. That if I could just manage every schedule, fix every problem, keep every ball in the air—then I'd finally be "good." Worthy. Enough.

Spoiler alert: I was wrong.

This is the story of a kitchen moment that shattered everything I thought I knew about control. How one look from my husband made me realize I was running a survival pattern that had me treating life like a constant emergency.

In this first episode of 17 Minutes, we dive into:

  • The moment I caught my survival system red-handed
  • Why urgency feels safer than trust (and why it's not)
  • How I lost my free-spirited self under the weight of "responsibility"
  • The two questions that reveal who's actually driving your life
  • Why the real you can walk at her own pace and handle whatever happens

  • This episode is for you if: You're exhausted from being everyone's emotional support system, you feel guilty when you're not "productive," or you secretly believe that slowing down equals everything falling apart.

    CHAPTERS:

    00:00 The look that changed everything
    02:18 When perfection became my prison
    04:41 Meeting your authentic vs. survival self
    07:06 How life buried the real me
    08:55 Two questions that change everything
    10:58 Learning to trust instead of control
    13:05 Preview: 38 years of self-sabotage

    YOUR HOMEWORK:
    Next time you catch yourself in urgency mode, ask:

    ⚡️"What place am I operating from right now?"
    ⚡️"What am I running from?"

    Then take one breath and remember: You don't have to be the CEO of everyone's life.

    QUOTE TO REMEMBER:
    "The more your authentic natural self is in the driver's seat, the better your life is going to be."

    COMING NEXT WEEK: Self-sabotage. 38 years of it. The behaviors that keep us stuck in cycles we hate but can't seem to break. I'm nervous to share this one, but someone needs to say it out loud.

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    17 MinutesBy Robyn Savage