What if the mental load in your relationship is actually on your partner—and you're not sure how to help?

This bonus drop was previously for subscribers only, but now it's available to everyone. In this emotionally layered Reddit story, we hear from a woman who wants to support her partner better but feels paralysed by deep-rooted trauma from her upbringing. She’s ready to grow, but haunted by the fear: what if I mess it up and they leave me?

In this episode, we unpack:

• How past trauma can shape your ability to contribute equally

• What emotional safety looks like when you’re learning new skills

• Why “just doing chores” can be anything but simple

• How to communicate deep-seated fears in a healthy, relationship-building way

🎧 Extra episodes with honest convos, real tools, and a ton of heart—now available to all listeners.

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