Imagine that you and your spouse are building a jigsaw puzzle, but you don’t know what the picture on the front of the box looks like. Now imagine that you have different ideas of what the picture should look like, and neither one of you have the right picture. This is how many Christian couples experience the “gift” of sex. Guest: Hannah Nitz Show notes: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery* Register for our FREE  Live Q&A; and Book Giveaway! Hannah's podcast, There's More   *This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed to Look Like In Marriage?

Join clinical psychologist Dr. Juli Slattery as she gets to the heart of what the Bible says about sex, singleness, marriage and intimacy. 

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When a marriage ends through divorce, it makes sense that the people involved would experience deep grief. So how do we care for those walking through it? What is a Christian approach to divorce-care and helping divorced individuals in the church? Laura Petherbridge, who suddenly found herself divorced at 29, joins Juli to share her experience as a divorcee, discuss the work she is doing, and explain how the Church can be a place of healing and empathy for those mourning the loss of their marriages.      Guest: Laura Petherbridge     Laura’s Website: thesmartstepmom.com Laura’s Instagram: @​​laurapetherbridge     Java with Juli:  #376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage? Java with Juli:  #409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things)     DivorceCare Celebrate Recovery Single Again   Sign up for an Online Book Study!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church

Widowhood presents profound challenges, with loneliness permeating every aspect of life, including the realm of sexuality. The loss goes beyond losing a life partner; it extends to losing a sexual companion as well. In this week’s Java with Juli, Dr. Carol Tanksley, who became widowed after just seven years of marriage in 2016, delves into the complexities faced by widows, and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face. She also shares her personal experience of surrendering her sexuality to God in widowhood.   Guest: Dr. Carol Tanklsey   Carol’s website: drcarolministries.com Carol’s Instagram: @drcarolt   Book: Sexpectations by Dr. Carol Tanksley Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder   Java with Juli:  #407 Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us! Blog: Masturbation: Is It Wrong? Blog:  “Is Masturbation a Sin?” You May Be Asking the Wrong Question   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#518 Single Sexuality and the Unique Challenges of Widowhood

Why are we all so lonely? Why is it that at a time when we are more connected than ever, many of us find ourselves feeling lonely and isolated? Jeff Kemp and Juli explore what’s making us feel lonely, how to bring more vulnerability and honesty into our relationships, and why understanding our identities is pivotal when it comes to cultivating deep, long-lasting friendships.   Guest: Jeff Kemp   Jeff’s Website: jeffkempteam.com   Book: Receive: The Way of Jesus for Men by Jeff Kemp Book: Level 5 Friendship Playbook (download through the pop up on his website)   Register for Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality Find out more about Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#517 How to Beat Loneliness and Cultivate Deeper Friendships

Married sexuality has its challenges, internal and external, and it can be tempting to quit having sex or step outside the marriage, but there are ways to address some of the issues and overcome them as a couple.   Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about:   How to manage mismatched libidos   Why foreplay matters   What to do if you experience symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction   Why sex is important in marriage   How to re-enter holy sexuality and eroticism after abstaining without it becoming sin     Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma    Website: Building Intimate Marriages Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages   Explore more resources on Sex in Marriage    Sign up for Second Cup!   Learn more about becoming a member.     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#516 Don't Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist)

What do your attractions say about you? Do they say anything about you? Is attraction always about sex, or are there more layers to it than we tend to think? Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.   Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Blog:  3 Subconscious Beliefs You May Hold About Living With Same-Sex Attraction   Partner with AI!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed to Look Like In Marriage?

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