<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1758160/open_sms">Send us a text</a>This podcast reveals how adoption's parent/child relationships oftentimes become strained and explains that the strain is not the fault of parent nor child.   Five adoptive moms give real-life examples of strain. Sherrie Eldridge reveals the greatest gift parents can give their kids in every situation--the gift of a non-abandoning heart. The pre-requisite to a non-abandoning heart is "risky love"--choosing to remain in the meltdown with the child, trace current-day strain to perceived abandonment, and speak to the past as well as the present.  With her seasoned adoptee voice, Sherrie urges fellow adoptees to forgive themselves. Why? Their brains were damaged in the midst of trauma, but still have great hope of recovery. All Rights Reserved. @sherrieeldridge

Send us a text This podcast reveals how adoption's parent/child relationships oftentimes become strained and explains that the strain is not the fault of parent nor child. Five adoptive moms give real-life examples of strain. Sherrie Eldridge reveals the greatest gift parents can give their kids in every situation--the gift of a non-abandoning heart. The pre-requisite to a non-abandoning heart is "risky love"--choosing to remain in the meltdown with the child, trace current-day strain to perceived abandonment, and speak to the past as well as the present. With her seasoned adoptee voice, Sherrie urges fellow adoptees to forgive themselves. Why? Their brains were damaged in the midst of trauma, but still have great hope of recovery. All Rights Reserved. @sherrieeldridge

<a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1758160/open_sms" rel="noopener noreferrer">Send us a text</a>This podcast reveals how adoption's parent/child relationships oftentimes become strained and explains that the strain is not the fault of parent nor child. &nbsp; Five adoptive moms give real-life examples of strain. Sherrie Eldridge reveals the greatest gift parents can give their kids in every situation--the gift of a non-abandoning heart. The pre-requisite to a non-abandoning heart is "risky love"--choosing to remain in the meltdown with the child, trace current-day strain to perceived abandonment, and speak to the past as well as the present.&nbsp; With her seasoned adoptee voice, Sherrie urges fellow adoptees to forgive themselves. Why? Their brains were damaged in the midst of trauma, but still have great hope of recovery. All Rights Reserved. @sherrieeldridge

What Kind of Love Adoptees Really Need

Many adoptive, foster, stepmoms, and grandmothers are suffering in silence. No one in the world of adoption is giving them the tools for recovery. No one is teaching them how to handle adoptee pushback and rejection. No one is wrapping arms around them and praying when all they can do is cry. When moms realize the unknown depth of their child’s trauma, a common reaction is self-doubt. If she doesn’t know what happened, how can she find words to help her child process it? It’s terrifying, like climbing Everest without ropes. She's so self-doubting that she almost always concludes that she doesn't have what it takes to parent her child. Truth be known, she looks over the cliffs of depression more times than she'd care to admit.<ul><li>I’m a loser mom.</li><li>I can’t self-regulate, let alone teach my child to do the same.</li><li>I can’t attach with my child...and I never will have it.</li><li>I am inept as a mom.</li><li>I can’t even decide whether to have a peanut butter sandwich.</li><li>I’m a mess.</li><li>I don’t have what it takes.</li><li>I’m a lousy mom.</li><li>I hate myself.</li><li>I’ll never be able to meet my child’s need for mothering.</li></ul>&nbsp;The good news is that the dream can be reshaped, and in that painful space, God does His most sacred work by meeting us in our brokenness, holding our hearts, and gently replanting hope. &nbsp; Stay tuned for upcoming podcasts and updates about my upcoming book.&nbsp;

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Many adoptive, foster, stepmoms, and grandmothers are suffering in silence. No one in the world of adoption is giving them the tools for recovery. No one is teaching them how to handle adoptee pushback and rejection. No one is wrapping arms around them and praying when all they can do is cry. When moms realize the unknown depth of their child’s trauma, a common reaction is self-doubt. If she doesn’t know what happened, how can she find words to help her child process it? It’s terrifying, like climbing Everest without ropes. She's so self-doubting that she almost always concludes that she doesn't have what it takes to parent her child. Truth be known, she looks over the cliffs of depression more times than she'd care to admit.I’m a loser mom.I can’t self-regulate, let alone teach my child to do the same.I can’t attach with my child...and I never will have it.I am inept as a mom.I can’t even decide whether to have a peanut butter sandwich.I’m a mess.I don’t have what it takes.I’m a lousy mom.I hate myself.I’ll never be able to meet my child’s need for mothering.  The good news is that the dream can be reshaped, and in that painful space, God does His most sacred work by meeting us in our brokenness, holding our hearts, and gently replanting hope.   Stay tuned for upcoming podcasts and updates about my upcoming book. 

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