Welcome, to the Becoming Okay podcast, conversations with your host Meg Schirnhofer, who meets with people who share their lived-experiences with mental health and how they are finding a way to become okay.

In this episode, I sit down with Nick Lavery, Green Beret and amputee, to talk about discipline, emotional regulation, and how to prepare your mind before life gets difficult.

We explore:

- Why motivation always fades and what replaces it

- How emotional regulation becomes the ultimate performance skill

- The difference between reacting and preparing

- Why time isn’t missing, it’s prioritised

- How discomfort can train calm instead of panic

- What real discipline looks like day-to-day

Chapters

00:00 Nick's Early Life and Personal Struggles

06:05 The Role of Adversity in Building Resilience

08:43 Preparation and Prevention: Military Insights

11:39 Defining Mission and Priorities

14:38 The Impact of Losing a Limb

17:42 Mental vs Physical Rehabilitation

20:25 Fear, Guilt, and Team Dynamics

23:21 Navigating Discipline and Self-Care

26:16 Intuition and Decision Making

29:20 Time Management and Prioritisation

34:15 The Power of Language and Time Management

35:46 Crisis Management and Emotional Regulation

40:34 Mindfulness and Discomfort Training

48:12 Building Consistency and Discipline

01:00:17 Finding Purpose in Life

Here’s to Becoming Okay, in every sense of the word.

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Find Nick here:

Nick's book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Objective-Secure-Battle-Tested-Guide-Achievement/dp/057835201X/ref=asc_df_057835201X?mcid=72065aab74173e239926bf0c3081e699&th=1&psc=1&tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=697289803178&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5542436220820159477&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006988&hvtargid=pla-1600210744718&psc=1&hvocijid=5542436220820159477-057835201X-&hvexpln=0&gad_source=1

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenicklavery/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-lavery-a691871ba/