Each of us is unique and we have our own distinct battles and challenges. For one person it is staying away from the urge to fall victim to emotional eating, while for another it is refraining from that nasty comment which your intellect knows has no place in a relationship you are trying to build. Taiva is characterized by 2 thoughts. Before the act, you think, 'I really shouldn't do this! And after the fact you ask, why did I do that? Torah wisdom teaches us how to develop more self control.