After a divorce, many dads find themselves wrestling with a painful question:

Am I still a good dad?

Being a “good dad” after divorce doesn’t look the way you thought it would—but that doesn’t make it any less real. In fact, some of the most important parts of fatherhood happen in the moments no one else sees.

So let’s talk about what no one tells you about being a “good dad” after divorce—and why you might be doing better than you think.