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In this mind-rattling journey through the unfiltered depths of hypergamy, we dissect Scott Alexander’s epic essay “Hypergamy: Much More Than You Wanted To Know” from Astral Codex Ten. This isn’t just about dating—it’s about class, income, instinct, lies, apps, and the invisible scripts that shape who ends up with who.
We go full throttle, from the lies couples tell about income to the emotional minefields of reversed status marriages, from why high-status men don’t marry “down” to how modern apps have turned you into your own worst matchmaker—this video doesn’t just explain hypergamy, it challenges you to face it.
VIDEO INDEX
00:00 – The One You’ll Never Marry
01:01 – The Real Meaning of Hypergamy
02:10 – Why Relative Status Still Rules Love
03:17 – When Women Become Too Educated to Marry
04:22 – How Men Still Win in Income
05:36 – Why Class Always Beats Money
06:54 – The Dignity Algorithm Nobody Talks About
07:55 – Why Rich Men Sleep Down But Marry Across
08:54 – Beauty Fails at Class Borders
09:59 – The Lie That Starts When She Earns More
11:15 – Why Reverse Earning Couples Crash
12:19 – Awkward Is the New Divorce Risk
13:21 – You’re Not In Love, You’re Sniffing Pedigree
14:36 – Why Poor Beautiful Women Stay Single
15:42 – The One Marriage Rule Men Can’t Break
16:18 – When Society Itself Kills Your Love Life
17:49 – How England Proved Beauty Doesn’t Matter
18:25 – The Tyranny of Swiping Into Your Own Class
19:44 – Why Even Gay Love Sorts By Class
20:24 – What Your Kids Are Really Worth
21:09 – Every “I Do” You Never Chose
22:16 – The Status Lies Couples Tell Themselves
23:08 – The Marriage Cliff You Didn’t See Coming
24:16 – What Fragile Masculinity Really Costs Love
25:08 – How Mismatched Status Short-Circuits Desire
26:15 – Why Beautiful Men Are Secretly Punished
27:00 – Hypergamy Is Not a Bug, It’s the Core Code
27:38 – Why Tinder Is The Sims for Social Class
28:10 – The Mail-Order Myth Exploded
29:07 – Global Proof That Class Always Wins
30:09 – Why Tech Bros Date Their Clones
31:05 – What Happens to the Undesirable Majority
32:06 – Why You Date Your Spotify Playlist
33:04 – Are Educated Women Actually Alone?
34:04 – The Tyranny Hidden in Every Swipe
35:05 – Why Second Marriages Might Be More Honest
36:00 – Can Gen Z Break the Dating Machine?
37:00 – You’re Being Scored, Not Loved
37:48 – Faking Class Is Not Love, It’s PR
38:39 – Would You Date Someone Beneath You?
39:25 – The Final Question You’re Too Scared to Ask
Warning: this will make you uncomfortable. It’s supposed to.
Hit that like if you recognize yourself.
Subscribe if you're ready to burn the algorithm down.
And comment—brutally, honestly—on what this makes you see about your own dating life.
#Dating #Hypergamy #Relationships #Class #Status
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By Artificially AwareIn this mind-rattling journey through the unfiltered depths of hypergamy, we dissect Scott Alexander’s epic essay “Hypergamy: Much More Than You Wanted To Know” from Astral Codex Ten. This isn’t just about dating—it’s about class, income, instinct, lies, apps, and the invisible scripts that shape who ends up with who.
We go full throttle, from the lies couples tell about income to the emotional minefields of reversed status marriages, from why high-status men don’t marry “down” to how modern apps have turned you into your own worst matchmaker—this video doesn’t just explain hypergamy, it challenges you to face it.
VIDEO INDEX
00:00 – The One You’ll Never Marry
01:01 – The Real Meaning of Hypergamy
02:10 – Why Relative Status Still Rules Love
03:17 – When Women Become Too Educated to Marry
04:22 – How Men Still Win in Income
05:36 – Why Class Always Beats Money
06:54 – The Dignity Algorithm Nobody Talks About
07:55 – Why Rich Men Sleep Down But Marry Across
08:54 – Beauty Fails at Class Borders
09:59 – The Lie That Starts When She Earns More
11:15 – Why Reverse Earning Couples Crash
12:19 – Awkward Is the New Divorce Risk
13:21 – You’re Not In Love, You’re Sniffing Pedigree
14:36 – Why Poor Beautiful Women Stay Single
15:42 – The One Marriage Rule Men Can’t Break
16:18 – When Society Itself Kills Your Love Life
17:49 – How England Proved Beauty Doesn’t Matter
18:25 – The Tyranny of Swiping Into Your Own Class
19:44 – Why Even Gay Love Sorts By Class
20:24 – What Your Kids Are Really Worth
21:09 – Every “I Do” You Never Chose
22:16 – The Status Lies Couples Tell Themselves
23:08 – The Marriage Cliff You Didn’t See Coming
24:16 – What Fragile Masculinity Really Costs Love
25:08 – How Mismatched Status Short-Circuits Desire
26:15 – Why Beautiful Men Are Secretly Punished
27:00 – Hypergamy Is Not a Bug, It’s the Core Code
27:38 – Why Tinder Is The Sims for Social Class
28:10 – The Mail-Order Myth Exploded
29:07 – Global Proof That Class Always Wins
30:09 – Why Tech Bros Date Their Clones
31:05 – What Happens to the Undesirable Majority
32:06 – Why You Date Your Spotify Playlist
33:04 – Are Educated Women Actually Alone?
34:04 – The Tyranny Hidden in Every Swipe
35:05 – Why Second Marriages Might Be More Honest
36:00 – Can Gen Z Break the Dating Machine?
37:00 – You’re Being Scored, Not Loved
37:48 – Faking Class Is Not Love, It’s PR
38:39 – Would You Date Someone Beneath You?
39:25 – The Final Question You’re Too Scared to Ask
Warning: this will make you uncomfortable. It’s supposed to.
Hit that like if you recognize yourself.
Subscribe if you're ready to burn the algorithm down.
And comment—brutally, honestly—on what this makes you see about your own dating life.
#Dating #Hypergamy #Relationships #Class #Status
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Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices