As a way of turning over the ideas I’ve covered so far, in this episode I offer the five questions I get asked most often—and most immediately—when I teach this material. (Being early days for this show, nobody wrote in. So instead of inventing listeners, I hauled these ones out from my notes — and answered them straight. You’re invited to send in your questions for future episodes.)

There's also a correction in here that I've owed you for six episodes: it was never "the need to be right." It's just being right. Drop the word, and you start seeing it in the one place you'd least like to find it—I think you know where I mean. 

Inside: Five questions answered, three on how to work with being right, one about knowing versus seeing, and one on whether surrender is even possible when the world’s on fire. All answered from the point of view of putting aside mechanistic ego reactions to get to what’s real and what matters. 

Recognise why you can't directly make someone else see their being right, what wanting to might say about you, and what you can realistically do that is meaningfully different. * The "being right" vs "being correct" distinction. * Noticing the mechanism and still not being able to stop. * Where this teaching sits next to ACT, IFS and the contemplative traditions (and why that question is a trap). * Is "I don't mind what happens" (equanimity) even possible in today’s world?

Got a question for the next one? Drop it in the comments or reply by email — your name on it if you want it there.

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Show notes:

A listener Q&A with no write-ins — yet. Five real questions, drawn from the coaching room and trainings, about the mechanism at the heart of this show to date: being right.

We cover: 

Q1: How should you respond when you can see “being right” in others? A: Notice how this added layer of awareness can birth a spiritual ego. (And how the issues you're most right about are the areas where you're most stuck.) Q2: Does giving up being right make you a doormat? What if your job requires it? A: How to distinguish between being right as an ego mechanism and being right in fact. Q3: What to do when you can see the mechanism and still can't stop? A: How to shift from awareness to action. Q4: How does this approach correlate with other knowledge frameworks? A: Knowing when knowing is just knowing and shifting to seeing and doing. Q5: Isn’t “I don't mind what happens" (equanimity) just privilege talking when the world is in crisis? A: Start small and don’t invoke a crisis of meaning until you’re ready.

Mentioned: the surrender episode (Ep 5), the Bob Newhart "Stop It" sketch, Krishnamurti's "I don't mind what happens."

Got a question? Comments or email — we'll do this properly next time.