What To Do When

I'm back, and I owe you an honest explanation.

I recorded this intro four times, waiting for it to feel perfect. In this episode I share what the last 9 months looked like (studying counselling, the YAP challenge, a trip to Spain, turning 30), what finally got me to hit publish, and why I'm switching to a 10-episode arc instead of chasing weekly perfection.

Your homework: what are you starting or stopping, and where do you need to adjust your expectations so you can actually begin?

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If you’ve been waiting to feel ready before you begin, this episode is for you.

In this Monday Motivation, I’m talking about perfectionism, fear, and the quiet ways we talk ourselves out of the life we actually want. I share honestly about love, failure, shame, and the moments that forced me to choose between hiding… or trying again.

This is your permission slip for 2026.
To stop waiting.
To make peace with getting it wrong.
To begin anyway.

Do it messy.

What if 2026 wasn’t about getting it right…
but about giving yourself permission to fail?

In this episode, I’m sharing a softer way to enter the new year, one that doesn’t require a perfect plan, endless goals, or burning yourself out trying to do everything.

We talk about:

• Why trying to hold everything as “important” leads to overwhelm

• How to use your values to decide what actually matters in 2026

• Why making mistakes might be the most powerful thing you do this year

• Letting go of pressure, perfection, and unrealistic timelines

• Allowing the year ahead to be a dance, not a performance

If you’re feeling hopeful and overwhelmed as the new year approaches, this episode is a reminder: you don’t need to have it all figured out, you just need to do what matters.

If you’re crawling to the finish line of 2025 and your brain is doing that end-of-year thing where it starts tallying everything you didn’t do, this episode is your permission slip to exhale.

We’re shifting out of measuring success through productivity, and into something softer: self-compassion, acceptance, and noticing the small moments that added up, even if it didn’t look “impressive” from the outside.

Because if you’re feeling fear, shame, comparison, loneliness, Christmas triggers, or that quiet “I let myself down this year” ache, you are so not alone.

Gentle reflection questions (no pressure, no perfection):

• What did this year ask of me?

• What did I survive that I don’t give myself credit for?

• Who did I become because of what I went through?

• Where did I keep going, even quietly, even imperfectly?

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See you in 2026!

I know we all say “it’s okay not to be okay” but when it’s actually you who’s not okay, it usually doesn’t feel that way, does it?

This week I’ve been sitting in that space, the one where your brain is desperate to minimise, distract, and pretend everything’s fine, when it’s really not.
And honestly, it’s been confronting to notice how fast I want to move on, fix, support everyone else, and avoid my own pain.

In this episode I talk about what happens when we can’t just “get on with it,” how our protective parts try to save us from feeling, and what it looks like to slow down and ask ourselves:

“Where does it actually hurt?”

This one’s tender. It’s honest. It’s not tied up with a bow.
But if you’ve been trying to hold it together lately, this one’s for you. From my tender heart to yours.

You know that weird energy that hits around this time of year?
The “how is it already October?” panic, the guilt of unfinished goals, and the quiet shame that whispers you should’ve done more.

In this episode, we’re talking about the end of year scaries, that mix of scarcity, fear, and comparison that creeps in when you realise 2025 is almost over and you’re not where you thought you’d be.

We’ll unpack:
✨ Why “falling behind” is a story your fear tells, not the truth
✨ How to move from shame into self-belief
✨ The difference between chasing goals from fear vs. alignment
✨ How to come back to your values, your timing, and your purpose
✨ And the powerful reflection question to help you do what actually matters

Because 2025 isn’t over.
You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.

Your job now? To take one small, brave step toward living in alignment with what truly matters, not just for the rest of this year, but for the rest of your life.

Journal prompt:
What’s one area of my life where I’m not living in alignment with my values?
And what’s one small step I can take this week to change that?

🎧 Listen now and get ready to finish 2025 doing what matters, not what’s expected.

Ever felt trapped in a job, relationship, or plan that looks “perfect on paper” but feels completely wrong in your body?
This episode is your official permission slip to pivot.

We’re breaking down:
✨ Why we cling to things that aren’t working (hello conditioning)
✨ The difference between resistance vs. misalignment
✨ How pivoting is actually self-leadership, not failure

If you’ve been waiting for a sign to change direction, this is it.

🔗 Want deeper support in navigating your pivots and building a life that feels aligned? Come work with me inside my 1:1 program HEAL, explore the program + book in your free connection call here: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching

Ever look at other people’s friendships and wonder why it feels so hard for you?
Like everyone else has their “soulmate friends” while you’re stuck with surface-level connections, loneliness, or just a nagging sense that something’s missing?

In this episode of What To Do When… I’m talking about the real, messy truth of building friendships as an adult. Because here’s the thing: friendships massively impact your mental health — but they’re also the pillar we often put the least effort into.

I share:
✨ My own seasons of loneliness and “cocooning” where friendships felt slim or fake
✨ Why building strong friendships is actually a skill (not just “luck”)
✨ The fears, wounds, and social myths that make adult friendships so hard
✨ How to get clear on the kind of friendships you want (just like dating)
✨ Tools to put yourself out there, navigate rejection, and find your people
✨ How to handle common struggles — like what to do when a friend hurts you or when a connection feels one-sided

This one’s part story, part pep talk, and part practical coaching. If you’ve been craving those soulmate-level friendships — the kind that make you feel seen, safe, and supported — this episode is for you.

👉 Share this with a friend who needs to hear it, or use it as a reason to finally reach out and reconnect.

And if you’re ready to go deeper — building self-trust, confidence, and relationships that actually feel good — comment HEAL on my latest post or reach out to learn more about my 1:1 coaching program.

Ever fallen off something important to you — a goal, a project, a practice, a dream — and then found every excuse in the book not to start again? Yep… same.

This is my big, messy comeback episode. After ghosting my own podcast for 2 months (🙃), I’m pulling back the curtain on:

✨ Why shame is the real thing that keeps us stuck (not the falling off itself)
✨ How to reconnect with your WHY when the motivation feels dead and buried
✨ The barriers we build that make starting harder than it needs to be (and how to remove them)
✨ Stories of people who started messy and imperfect — and still made it work
✨ A reminder that your future self will thank you for starting now, not perfectly

This episode is short, sharp, and real — like a voice note from a friend reminding you that you don’t need a studio, a perfect plan, or a shiny new notebook to start. You just need to begin again, right where you are.

So if you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop ghosting your own dreams… this is it. 🫶

👉 If you loved this episode, share it with a friend who’s been putting off their own big idea. And if you’re ready to go deeper into your own healing + self-leadership journey, you can connect with me here.

If you’ve ever felt shame around pleasure, been nervous about trying sex toys, or wondered how the hell to ask for what you actually like in bed — this episode is your new safe space.

Kathleen is joined by Viv from Girls Get Off — the powerhouse brand behind some very buzzy bedside drawer staples — for a no-filter conversation on all things pleasure, desire, and ditching the shame.

They get into:
→ The real reason so many women still struggle with receiving pleasure
→ The orgasm gap (and how to actually close it)
→ Sex toy 101: a breakdown of the types + how to explore them without the overwhelm
→ How to talk about sex without spiralling into “Do they think I’m weird now?”
→ And why connecting to your pleasure isn’t just sexy… it’s healing.

This one’s equal parts spicy, empowering and giggle-worthy. And yes — it’s VERY R18. Plug in your headphones, babe.

Resources mentioned:
→ Girls Get Off Website
→ Girls Get Off Instagram
→ GGO Facebook Community Group
→ Yoni Mapping Practitioners
→ Anal Dilation 101 (yes, we went there)
→ Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz
→ Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

✨ Want to keep healing and reconnecting with your body, mind and self-worth?
Join Kathleen’s 1:1 program HEAL — designed to help you unpack the beliefs, patterns, and parts that have kept you stuck in self-abandonment, anxiety, and shame.
More on HEAL here → https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching