This is the honest preparation guide for what actually happens when you set boundaries with family. With the holiday season approaching, it's time to talk about the outcomes nobody warns you about, including the most painful one: sometimes they just leave.

Here's what to expect when you set family boundaries:

• Best case: They accept the boundary and adjust their behavior (yes, this can actually happen - you know your family best)
• The offense: They take it personally, want to argue, and get defensive no matter how you word it (have an exit strategy ready)
• The manipulation: They shift blame and make it your fault they crossed the line (don't fall for it)
• The abandonment: They exit your life entirely, which nobody expects because "that's what family does - they stick around, right?" (not always)
• The painful truth: Sometimes people were only around because they liked taking advantage of your people-pleasing ways

From decades of history and unspoken "don't rock the boat" cultural norms to realizing that boundaries are meant to deepen relationships (not push people away), this episode prepares you emotionally for what might happen when you finally set that boundary.

Because here's what you need to know: if someone's response to you wanting a healthier, more loving, more respectful relationship is to leave, then maybe that's exactly where they need to go out the door. It's painful, but accepting that reality is part of healing.

You know your family best. You might already have an inkling about who will respond which way. Use that knowledge to prepare yourself emotionally and practice what you'll say.

Subscribe. Share. Remember that setting boundaries doesn't make you the bad guy - it makes you someone who values healthy relationships.

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