Here are the phone notes I took in preparation for recording this episode…

-I don’t have it figured out but…

-I believe these principles, tools and truths can be applied broadly to habits and addictions generally

-This is not a blueprint for everyone but perhaps there is some insight for everyone

-Enlightenment vs Empowerment

Some of these insights came from

-Sara Brewers program

-Talk therapy

-Scripture study

-Church Talks/BYU Speeches

-Podcasts (Sara Brewer, Listen/Learn/Love)

-Books (Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Atomic Habits, The Infinite Atonement)

-Had to try hacks to know they can help but aren’t the ultimate solution (phone filters, phone monitoring, accountability partners, sobriety tracking)

-Learn about the brain (dopamine, trauma, cravings)

-Set Boundaries (I do not scroll, I do not use any social media, clean up music)

-Disrupt patterns (stop/drop/breathe, Journal, looking left and right to get brain back online)

-Allow room to grow (expect to mess up, process urges)

-Complete honesty (Self, Spouse, Family, Church, World)

-Help others

Truths I had to accept…

-I am loved and valued by God no matter how much I struggle

-There is no end to trying, no finish line, I never arrive

-I am not a bad person for struggling with pornography

-My weaknesses (pornography) are the reasons I turn to and need Jesus Christ

-When I allow Jesus Christ into my life, I am strong beyond my own capacity

-Even though I haven’t proven it yet, I am capable of change

-I am worthy of my life and the life ahead of me