Do a quick, loving but honest post‑mortem of your Christmas while memories are fresh: grade time use, spending, family stress, kids’ experience, mental health, and how the marriage held up. Take notes, sleep on it, then come back together and create a clear plan for next year with things to stop and things to try.

Practice self‑care and marriage care in the next few days so you can recover and make meaningful changes. This is Paul: dissecting the past helps us do life well.