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Welcome back to another episode of the Zen(ish) Mommy Podcast! While prenups are a common feature in rap music, in reality, they’re not just for the uber-rich, or the gold diggers among us. Today’s guest is here to set the record straight on what can and cannot be included in a pre- or postnup, to protect everyone involved. A managing partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, Lisa Zeiderman is a matrimonial and family attorney and certified divorce financial analyst. She regularly handles complex financial divorce and custody cases, as well as pre and post-nuptial agreements. With many awards behind her, from the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, she is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators, and a member of the panel of Attorneys for Children, among other huge accolades within financial and marital law. Tune in today to learn from her wealth of expertise. 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Lisa’s advice to set the financial terms of your marriage as soon as possible.
• Lisa’s status as divorced and remarried for 25 years, with no prenup for her first marriage.
• Her first career in fashion marketing before pivoting after her first divorce.
• Thinking of marriage as a financial partnership.
• The difference between a prenup and a postnup. 
• The option between having a will superseding your marital agreement or not.
• Waiving the elective share according to the will or choosing to contract out of that.
• What specifically is covered in prenups: whether something is considered separate property or marital property.
• The importance of categorizing debt from before the marriage as you enter into it.
• What cannot be contracted in a prenup: anything relating to a child that’s not born.
• How a prenup can benefit the partner who comes into the marriage with less.
• The importance of contracting to deal with time spent out of the workforce to support the family.
• Mistakes young couples make including forgoing transparency and expectations.
• Why spousal support is one of the areas where people disagree most.
• Why having a plan in place allows you to take control and empowers you financially and within your marriage.
• Lisa’s advice not to be afraid to introduce a prenup, to negotiate them ahead of time, and reevaluate in the form of a postnup if needed.
• Examples of what can happen if you ignore what is stated in your prenup.
• How she finds time to slow down at her house in the country, go on vacations with her husband, and dine out.
• Increasing domestic violence, mental health issues, and addiction.
• Why you will not be penalized for reaching out for help, but rather applauded.
• Her blog on Psychology today which you can find links to on her LinkedIn.

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