We can see children as too small to know any better, or we can see them as equals who have much to offer us by reflection. Ryan Adams shares with great tenderness how his behaviour could have been described as 'rambunctious' and perhaps 'difficult' but to him, he was trying to work out who he was and trying to build his own boundaries. Now, as a parent himself, he offers some wise reflections for us, not just as parents, but as a community who parent the many children and young adults in our community.