When you lose your cool on the tennis court, do you give up, thank or start pushing the ball?

In this week's tennis psychology podcast, mental game of tennis expert, Dr. Patrick Cohn answers a question from Sarah who needs help managing her expectations.

Here's what Sarah had to say about her game:

"I'm 14  years old an have been playing tennis for about 8 years. Once of my coaches calls me a bull because I'm always so stubborn and get so upset when I do something wrong but the only reason I get upset is because I know I can do better but when I get upset its like i just stop trying. I give up. So I've been trying to find ways to keep my cool and stay mentally tough. I hate losing and then I get all the thoughts of what people are going to think f me, especially my parents. Ive been trying to deal with this but I cant and as soon as is tart to think of it, i start to push the ball in the court or hit extremely had for no reason. I can be extremely hard on myself and I could really use your help."

COHN: Part of the reason that your hard on yourself and that you get easily frustrated and hate losing is because it it sounds like there is some perfectionism that you have with your game

COHN: Now, what goes with the perfectionism?

COHN: One of the things that goes with the perfectionism is very high expectations for your performance, even in a practice situation when your coach sees that, where you're not being able to learn fast enough or you miss hitting shots and you probably get upset.

COHN: I don't think its so much about being stubborn or being a bull as it is that you demand so much of yourself that you price in perfection in terms of your performance.

COHN: Whats the challenge with perfectionism? What can you do?

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