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“What messages should I share when talking to my child about porn?
There are many conversations and teachable moments related to sexualized media. Try not to lecture, as this can lead to a young person tuning you out. Here are a few of many possible points to help a young person develop a critical lens:
You might find that you enjoy seeing sexual images or you may not. Both feelings can be normal.
Porn is made for adult entertainment not education. It’s not made for children or young people.
Porn does not provide an accurate representation of bodies, sex, consent, or relationships. This can be harmful for many reasons, one being that if young people watch it, they may think that these depictions are what’s typical or expected.
Bodies shown in porn aren’t always representative of natural or diverse bodies. For example, it often features genitals without pubic hair, surgically enlarged breasts or penises, and a lack of diversity in racial identity, genders, sexual orientation, and disabilities.
Porn often fetishizes BIPOC (Black, Brown, Indigenious, People of Color), women, and disabled folx, categorizing people and sexual experiences based on harmful stereotypes.
Sexual or intimate relationships require consent to be healthy. This involves trust, respect, communication, and a sense of safety between partners. Porn often does not show this.
Porn often does not show safer sex practices like condoms, barrier methods, contraception, or discussions between partners about these.
Porn often shows violence, abusive language, and dangerous sexual acts, especially toward women. There are ethical versions of porn that can offer healthier depictions of sex for entertainment purposes, but these versions are often not the ones that come up with initial online searches.
People who consensually work in the industry of sex work deserve to have safe, equitable employment conditions, to be compensated fairly for their labor, and to be respected. Mainstream, free porn sites do not guarantee safety or ethical treatment for performers. Watching porn that’s not ethically produced supports harmful practices.
No one should ever force or coerce another person to consume or participate in sexualized media.
When young people are made aware of what porn is, who creates it, why it’s concerning for kids to watch, and what to do when they come across it, they’re better prepared to make informed decisions. Responding in shame-free ways keeps the dialogue open and makes it clear to a child that you are a trusted adult they can count on for support and mentorship along their path.”
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By Antonio Myers“What messages should I share when talking to my child about porn?
There are many conversations and teachable moments related to sexualized media. Try not to lecture, as this can lead to a young person tuning you out. Here are a few of many possible points to help a young person develop a critical lens:
You might find that you enjoy seeing sexual images or you may not. Both feelings can be normal.
Porn is made for adult entertainment not education. It’s not made for children or young people.
Porn does not provide an accurate representation of bodies, sex, consent, or relationships. This can be harmful for many reasons, one being that if young people watch it, they may think that these depictions are what’s typical or expected.
Bodies shown in porn aren’t always representative of natural or diverse bodies. For example, it often features genitals without pubic hair, surgically enlarged breasts or penises, and a lack of diversity in racial identity, genders, sexual orientation, and disabilities.
Porn often fetishizes BIPOC (Black, Brown, Indigenious, People of Color), women, and disabled folx, categorizing people and sexual experiences based on harmful stereotypes.
Sexual or intimate relationships require consent to be healthy. This involves trust, respect, communication, and a sense of safety between partners. Porn often does not show this.
Porn often does not show safer sex practices like condoms, barrier methods, contraception, or discussions between partners about these.
Porn often shows violence, abusive language, and dangerous sexual acts, especially toward women. There are ethical versions of porn that can offer healthier depictions of sex for entertainment purposes, but these versions are often not the ones that come up with initial online searches.
People who consensually work in the industry of sex work deserve to have safe, equitable employment conditions, to be compensated fairly for their labor, and to be respected. Mainstream, free porn sites do not guarantee safety or ethical treatment for performers. Watching porn that’s not ethically produced supports harmful practices.
No one should ever force or coerce another person to consume or participate in sexualized media.
When young people are made aware of what porn is, who creates it, why it’s concerning for kids to watch, and what to do when they come across it, they’re better prepared to make informed decisions. Responding in shame-free ways keeps the dialogue open and makes it clear to a child that you are a trusted adult they can count on for support and mentorship along their path.”
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support