Anger shows up in grief like a shield. For me, it felt easier to rage than to feel the unbearable truth that my mom was gone. Anger kept me moving when the weight of my pain threatened to crush me. It gave me something to hold on to when silence felt like too much.

But here’s what I’ve learned: anger is grief’s armor. It isn’t weakness. It isn’t wrong. It’s a way our hearts try to protect us when the loss feels too heavy to carry. The problem is, if we stay there too long, we can get stuck in the fire and never touch the love beneath it.

In this episode of Soulfire, I share what it was like to live in that anger—the moments I lashed out, the times I felt consumed by rage, and the lessons I discovered about what was really hiding underneath. This conversation is raw, real, and for anyone who has ever felt safer mad than broken.

Because anger isn’t your enemy. It’s part of your love. And when you learn to honor it, you’ll start to uncover the healing that waits beneath the fire.

🔥 Soulfire Work — Episode 3: When Anger Feels Safer Than Pain

Step 1 – Write ✍️
Grab your journal and write down: “Who or what am I most angry at in my grief?” Don’t censor it. Let it spill out raw and unfiltered.

Step 2 – Reflect 💭
Ask yourself: “If I look underneath this anger, what pain is hiding there? What am I afraid to feel?”

Step 3 – Breathe 🌬️
Place your hand on your heart, close your eyes, and take three slow breaths. As you exhale, whisper:
“My anger is not my enemy. It is part of my love.”

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