“Be the bigger person” sounds emotionally mature… but for a lot of us, it actually taught self-silencing, freezing, and resentment.

In this episode, we’re unpacking why staying calm isn’t the same thing as being regulated, how freeze gets mistaken for maturity, and why the pressure-yes always turns into snapping later. Especially for moms, cycle-breakers, and anyone who grew up managing other people’s emotions.

If you’re usually the calm one — until you explode and don’t recognize yourself — this episode will help you understand what’s really happening in your nervous system and how to start naming discomfort earlier, without becoming confrontational or harsh.

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If you’re realizing you don’t even know your default stress response (freeze, fawn, fight, or flight), check out the free nervous system style quiz.
And if your snapping keeps showing up around the same parenting triggers, the Repeat Triggers Playbook can help you change the pattern instead of just trying harder.