In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when being useful stops being something you do and starts becoming part of who you are.

For many women, this pattern didn’t start recently. It started early, when helping became tied to being seen, being valued, and knowing you mattered. Over time, that can turn into an identity built around being the one who shows up, fixes, gives, and makes everything work.

 We’re talking about how that follows you into adulthood, how it shapes the roles you play in relationships and work, and why it can feel so disorienting to ask yourself who you are without that role.

 If your value has gotten tied to what you do for everyone else, this conversation is for you.