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When Chronic Illness Becomes a Third Wheel- Queue, The Crickets Silence


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70% of Americans live with at least one chronic condition.

But almost nobody talks about what chronic illness can do to a marriage, a family, or the emotional connection between two people trying to survive it together.

In this deeply honest and emotionally important episode of The SwagAbility Show, Stephen sits down with psychotherapist and author Lisa Gray to discuss the hidden emotional toll chronic illness places on relationships — including caregiver burnout, emotional grief, communication breakdown, isolation, resentment, and silence.

Together, they explore what happens when chronic illness quietly becomes “the third wheel” in a relationship.

Stephen and Julie Wagstaff, founders of SwagAbility are an inter-abled couple, after a diving accident left Stephen a C5 quadriplegic, at the age of 19.

The couple have made it their "public mission" to be outspoken about subjects that are not often talked about , yet have become silent epidemics that destroy once thriving relationships.

Stephen and Julie share the stage to speak on a number of topics together as a couple, or separately in differing venues, where they share captivating conversations that leave audiences wanting more. Visit www.SwagAbility.com for more about the work they are doing with foundation, SwagAbility, or to book them as guests at your next event. Whether that be, business, corporate, faith based, educational and more...

CHAPTERS

00:00 – The shocking reality of chronic illness in America

00:17 – Caregiver fatigue and burnout
00:27 – The hidden grief inside chronic illness relationships
00:49 – Welcome to The SwagAbility Show
01:00 – Meet psychotherapist Lisa Gray]
01:50 – Why this conversation matters so such
02:15 – Lisa’s own chronic illness diagnosis journey
03:00 – Living with hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome
04:30 – The emotional toll chronic illness takes on couples
07:15 – Why communication often breaks down
11:40 – Caregiver resentment and emotional exhaustion
16:20 – The silence couples stop talking about
21:00 – Conflict, grief, and relationship survival
27:30 – Faith, commitment, and growing through pain
33:10 – What healthy support actually looks like
39:00 – Advice for couples navigating chronic illness today
45:20 – Final thoughts on hope, healing, and connection

ABOUT THIS EPISODE:

Lisa Gray is a psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience helping couples navigate the emotional realities of chronic illness, grief, conflict, and relationship survival.

She is also the author of:

  • Healthy Conflict, Happy Couple
  • Thriving in a Relationship When You Have a Chronic Illness
  • In this powerful conversation, Stephen and Lisa discuss:

    • Chronic illness and relationship strain
    • Caregiver fatigue and burnout
    • Emotional grief inside marriage
    • Communication breakdown
    • Invisible illness
    • Faith during suffering
    • Relationship resilience
    • Emotional isolation
    • Chronic pain and mental health
    • Finding connection during difficult seasons
    • This episode is for anyone who has ever felt emotionally exhausted while trying to hold a relationship together through pain, uncertainty, illness, or caregiving.

      Because sometimes the hardest part of chronic illness is not what it does to the body……but what it quietly does to relationships.

      LEARN MORE ABOUT LISA GRAY

      https://lisagrayauthor.com/about

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