Most people think mastery means you stop reacting. The truth is, the intensity of your reactions might never fade. What changes is your ability to stay aware, regulate in the moment, and choose the hard but skillful response instead of collapsing or lashing out.

In this episode, I share what real progress looks like, from repairing moments with my partner to navigating a high stakes conversation with a five year old.

You’ll see why discomfort doesn’t go away, and why learning to work with it is the real mark of mastery.

What You’ll Learn

• Why expecting your emotions to get easier can derail your growth
• The difference between reducing reactivity and expanding capacity
• A repair practice you can use after things go sideways in conflict
• How to normalize discomfort and lean into high stakes conversations
• A story of turning a tense moment with a child into deeper trust

Why Listen?

If this is your first time here, welcome. I’ve spent years working with leaders, teams, and couples on the kinds of conversations that decide what happens next.

Most people avoid those moments. Or they walk into them with good intentions but no skill, and it blows up. What I share here comes straight from the real work: the messy, tense, uncomfortable conversations that actually change things when you handle them right.

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My hope is that what you pick up here helps you sharpen your communication, and with it, the quality of your business, your relationships, and your life.

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