If you’ve ever wrestled with questions like “Am I asking for too much?”, “Where do I place this person in my life?” or “How do I forgive and still have boundaries?” — this conversation is for you.

In this opening episode of our new series, “The Language of Relationship,” we’re zooming all the way out: before “besties,” church family, mentors, or colleagues — there was God. We explore what it means that in Him we live, move, and have our being, and how our identity in Christ shapes every other relationship in our lives.

I’m joined by Dr. Mojisola Olubu — family physician, menopause society certified practitioner, woman of the Word, and lover of emotional wholeness and spiritual maturity. Together, we unpack how temperament, life transitions, grief, and personal history shape the way we relate… and how God invites us into growth, not perfection, in our relationships.

In this episode, we explore:

•God’s original blueprint for relationship, starting from the Garden of Eden

•Why your relationship with God is the anchor that defines every other relationship

•Temperaments, strengths and “treasures” in your personality — and why there’s no “bad” temperament, only unrefined ones

•The difference between self-preservation and selfishness, and why we can’t live in survival mode forever

•The reality that some relationships are 90% “gain” for one person in a season — and how God can be in that

•How losses and life changes (bereavement, divorce, caregivin, immigration) quietly change relational dynamics

•The emotional “dashboard” image: noticing when your tank is low, what’s draining you, and how to refuel

•How to think about boundaries, access, and inner circles as a Christian without slipping into hardness of heart

•Why “the energy you give me is the energy I’ll give you back” can quietly pull us away from God’s heart

•Growing in adaptability, contentment, and grace while still honoring your values and limits

•The reminder that we won’t be perfect this side of eternity — but we must not stop growing

We also sit with the wisdom of Acts 17:28 — “In Him we live and move and have our being” — as a grounding scripture for every relationship in this season.

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About today’s guest – Dr. Mojisola Olubu

Dr. Mojisola (Moji) Olubu is a family physician with a special interest in women’s health and a menopause society certified practitioner. She carries a deep passion for emotional wellness and normalizing faith-centred living, blending medical insight with spiritual wisdom to help people live whole, grounded, integrated lives. She’s a fun-loving ambivert, a mentor to many, and is married to Oluwashina Olubu; together they have two lovely children.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

•Book: Relational Intelligence by Dr. Dharius Daniels

•Scriptures: Acts 17:28; Matthew 11 (The “unforced rhythms of grace” in The Message)

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Therapy & deeper processing:

If today’s conversation stirred something deep and you sense it may be time to sit with a professional and process your story more fully, I highlighted Hope Restored Psychotherapy, led by our Season 2 guest Demi. Hope Restored supports individuals, couples, and families with gentle, clinically sound care that honours both your emotional world and your faith.

You can find them on Instagram at @hoperestoredpsychotherapy — their clinic details are linked in the show notes.

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