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When Holding Too Tight Creates the Very Thing You Fear


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Sometimes the hardest lesson is realizing that the more tightly we hold, the less space we leave for life to actually work.

Quote from the Episode

“How many times have you squeezed things so tight that they couldn’t be anything else?”

Description

I’ve spent much of my life believing that staying ahead meant holding on tighter. Controlling outcomes. Anticipating problems. Preparing for every possible disruption. What I’m realizing now is how often that impulse creates the very tension and limitation I’m trying to avoid.

This episode is about recognizing when effort turns into constriction. When clarity gets replaced by fear. And how practices like yoga and Ayurveda help clear the residue that distorts perception so we can respond instead of react. Life moves. Community moves. Systems move. And when we allow space, things often resolve with far more ease than we expect.

Show Notes

In This Episode, I explore:

• How control can quietly turn into self sabotage

• Why communication often dissolves problems faster than resistance

• The cost of forcing outcomes before they are ready

• How perception gets distorted under stress and fear

• What yoga and Ayurveda teach us about clarity and flow

Highlights

• 🌊 Life moves through flow, not force

• 🧠 Tight control clouds perception

• 🤝 Honest communication creates unexpected resolution

• 🪟 Clearing internal residue restores clarity

• 🔓 Space allows growth to happen

Reflection Prompt

Where in your life are you holding so tightly that there is no room for anything new to emerge?

Practice Prompt

Today, notice one situation where you feel the urge to control the outcome. Pause, soften your breath, and ask what would happen if you allowed a little more space instead.

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DIVO- TED TalksBy Nicholas Wade Kimps