In this episode, we unpack why the holidays can make even the most self-aware adults feel like they’ve time-traveled back into childhood. From old roles to nervous system reflexes, Rachel explains how your body responds to family cues long before your logical brain catches up — and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing. She also offers simple, doable practices to help you stay connected to yourself instead of getting swept back into survival mode.

1. Why you “regress” around family (hint: you’re not regressing — you’re reenacting)
2. How your nervous system recognizes old cues from childhood
3. Why holidays amplify pursue/withdraw patterns
4. The difference between bracing and being present
5. How to interrupt old roles with tiny, compassionate shifts
6. A simple pre- and post-gathering check-in to support your system

Resources

1. Free Course | Break the Cycle: A self-paced introduction to understanding your patterns and nervous system responses.
2. Private Coaching (Limited Availability): High-touch, individualized support for deep relational pattern change.
3. The Attachment Revolution Membership — Waitlist: Ongoing education, tools, and live support for building more secure relationships.
4. Meaningful Journey Counseling (WA residents only): Licensed therapy services for individuals and couples in Washington State.

Disclaimer

This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health treatment, therapy, diagnosis, or medical advice. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are experiencing significant distress, please seek support from a licensed mental health professional or medical provider.