This is the episode where I stop just telling the story and actually break it apart. I talk about how the relationship ended, what freedom felt like, and the red flags that made it impossible to keep going. There were six that showed up over and over: blame and shame, desperation, low self worth, avoiding the truth, force and control, and fear. None of them were one-sided — I carried my own part in each of them, and so did she. That’s what made it so destructive. It wasn’t just about the screaming, the hitting, or the threats. It was about the foundation underneath all of that, the choices we made, and the way we both avoided real responsibility. This episode is about seeing those patterns clearly, owning your part in them, and learning how to stop tolerating behavior that slowly destroys you.

• The relationship was marked by escalating tensions and physical abuse.

• Threats of self-harm can complicate relationship dynamics.
• Deciding to break up can be a difficult but necessary choice.
• Finding freedom after an abusive relationship is liberating.
• Healing takes time and self-reflection is crucial.
• Identifying red flags in relationships can prevent future pain.

• Honesty and transparency are vital for healthy relationships.
• Personal growth and self-improvement attract better partners.

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