The need for safety is frequently spoken in conversations. But what if the way we seek and understand safety actually interferes with our capacity to authentically relate? This episode examines and challenges the need for safety and references the book Undefended Love co-authored by Jett Psaris and Marlena Lyons (New Harbinger Publications 2000). Here's a quote from the book: "The capacity to sustain our view of reality in the face of a divergent one while remaining in relationship until and organic resolution is reached is one of the cornerstones of an undefended partnership. Sustaining our own view is not the same as rigidly defending our position as "right." It is a mature capacity to investigate both points of view with equal vigor and dedication, with the realization that there is a third more encompassing reality yet to be known."