In this episode, I sit down with Lucy Nicholson, a midwife with over 15 years’ experience, to talk about the very real pressures parents feel to be “perfect” — and why even the experts carry their own worries about pregnancy and early parenthood.

Lucy opens up about her own journey, from navigating expectations to making choices about care. She shares:

How to choose (and change) caregivers in a way that feels right for you

The role of self-compassion in easing new parent stress

Why building community matters — and how her Nesting Lotus classes create a safe, supportive space for parents

We also touch on something many parents face but few talk about: SPD (Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction), a painful pelvic condition that can affect mobility and confidence during pregnancy. Lucy offers her insights on how gentle movement in water can help, but please make sure you seek further medical advice if you are experiencing symptoms of SPD.

It’s a warm, honest conversation packed with reassurance and practical takeaways — for anyone navigating pregnancy, postpartum, or the messy middle in between.

👉 You might also like to go back and listen to our episode with Professor Helen Ball on sleep — another myth-busting, reassuring chat that parents tell us makes a big difference. Link to episode

The conversations shared on this podcast reflect personal experiences and professional insights, but they’re not a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice. If you’re struggling or have questions about your wellbeing or your baby’s, please speak to a qualified professional. You’re not alone, and help is available.