Episode Description: In this powerful episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker takes us into the often-unspoken world of collective grief—the grief that doesn’t belong to just one person, one family, or one household. It belongs to all of us. When tragedy strikes a community—whether it’s a school shooting, a local accident, a sudden death, or a public loss—every face reflects the sorrow. And every heart carries a piece of it.

Sharon unpacks what it means to grieve together, how public mourning impacts private pain, and why it’s so hard to know what to say or do. Through her personal story and the communities she’s walked with through deep loss, this episode is a reminder: you are allowed to grieve, even if you weren’t the one closest to the loss.

If you’ve ever struggled to understand why you’re hurting after a tragedy in your town—or if you’ve watched your community rally and then fall silent—this episode will help you name it, feel it, and find a way forward together.

Key Points Covered:

• What community grief really is: How grief spreads beyond the immediate family and becomes a shared weight.

• The ripple effect of loss: Why neighbors, classmates, church members, teachers—even strangers—feel it too.

• When your grief becomes public: What it means when your pain is visible in grocery store aisles, in church pews, and across front porches.

• The awkwardness of support: Why communities show up with casseroles, candles, and balloon releases—because they don’t know what else to do.

• No grief is “too small”: Even if your connection was distant, your pain is real and valid.

• What happens after the funeral: Why grief gets louder in the silence after the ceremonies, when the door closes and the cameras are gone.

• The trap of being “community strong”: Why telling people to “stay strong” shuts down healing—and what to say instead.

• The importance of afterward support: How real community healing starts not just with rituals, but with consistent presence, honest words, and quiet connection.

Reflection Questions for Your Heart:

• Have you ever felt grief that didn’t “belong” to you, but changed you anyway?

• What role did you play in a collective loss—neighbor, teacher, nurse, friend?

• Who have you been meaning to check in on, long after the candles were blown out?

• What does your community need most right now: another event—or someone who will simply say, “I see you”?

A Note from Sharon: If you're hurting for your town, your school, your street, your neighbor—you're grieving. And you deserve space to feel it, too. Let’s stop pretending we’re okay. Let’s stop hiding behind strong. Real grief calls for real community. Let’s keep showing up for one another—not just for the funeral, but for the months and years afterward, when it matters most.

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