Whether it be in business or in your personal life, it’s always about the relationships. However, not all relationships are built equal, and certainly not all are meant to last. In this episode of Success Fundamentals, Kris Sykes and Brian Goldstein talk to coach, speaker, entrepreneur, and founder of Ellingson Enterprises, Fletcher Ellingson. 

Fletcher takes us down to brass tacks on when and how you should sever ties with somebody, and even defines specific elements to consider, such as our own standards and values. Ultimately, Fletcher argues that severing ties should not be done from a place of victimhood. Rather, it should be done from a place of empowerment, where we take 100% responsibility for the decisions we make. 

HIGHLIGHTS

• Are you playing the victim role?
• Most people are always doing their best with the tools they have 
• Try to give people the benefit of the doubt 
• Always take 100% of the responsibility for your life 
• Do not lower your standards to accommodate a relationship
• Standards vs values 
• We don't always live according to our values 
• Tolerance can lead to discomfort as well
• How to cleanly sever ties 

QUOTES

Fletcher: "I want to make sure that we're operating from a place of empowerment, not disempowerment. If we're playing the fair-unfair game in any way, you can guarantee the deck is stacked against the other person. That's why I want to say, just check yourself." 

Fletcher: "A value is simply an indicator of preference. I value honesty. I value financial freedom. I value health and fitness. But how many of us have a standard that actually backs it up?" 

Fletcher: "If I had to let somebody go or sever a relationship business or otherwise, I will forever use this now: 'This isn't working for me, and I have not been able to make it work. So this is the end of our working relationship.' Ultimately, if I'm their employer, I wasn't able to bring something to the table to elicit the level of performance that I desired." 

Follow Fletcher and his work through the links below: 

Website: https://fletcherellingson.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fletcher-ellingson-4067072/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gocoachfletch

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