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Hope isn’t the absence of fear—it’s the light that keeps you moving when fear won’t leave.
In this tender, no-fluff conversation, I sit with Sam Bonizzi, co-author of The Losses We Keep, as she shares how two missed miscarriages upended everything: the shock of hard news in an ultrasound room, the moment she fired a clinic that wouldn’t test her partner, and how she built a real support web—REI + acupuncture + therapy + a circle of women who “got it.”

We wade through conflicting advice, why testing doesn’t always hand you tidy answers, and how Sam chose IVF with genetic screening to reduce risk (not promise outcomes). We also name the complicated reality of pregnancy after loss—milestones as checkpoints, waiting rooms as triggers, and the slow release of tension week by week.

If you’re walking this road (or loving someone who is), you’ll leave with language, next steps, and permission to hold hope and fear at the same time.

You’ll hear:

• What a missed miscarriage is—and why it can feel so blindsiding
• How to advocate for yourself (and when to switch clinics) so both partners are evaluated
• Building a support team: medical care, acupuncture, therapy, community
• When testing gives no clear diagnosis—and how to choose your next best step
• IVF + genetic screening: risk reduction, not guarantees
• Pregnancy after loss: navigating triggers, milestones, mixed emotions
• How to support a loved one without toxic positivity

Check out Sam's Book - The Losses We Keep, Our Journey of Fertility, Loss and Never-Ending Hope - Her Chapter is 'If Nothing is Wrong, Then How Do We Fix It?"

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New episodes drop every Monday, so you can begin your week with a little light and a lot of hope.

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