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Shutdown doesn’t look dramatic.
 It looks quiet.

It looks like going flat.
 Pulling back.
 Not having the energy to explain.
 Losing your appetite.
 Staying in bed because your body won’t move, even when your mind wants to.

In this episode, I talk about the part of the nervous system that doesn’t fight or scan, it freezes, withdraws, and conserves. Not because you don’t care… but because you’ve cared too much for too long.

We explore:

• what shutdown feels like in the body
• why it can feel like paralysis
• how it shows up in everyday life
• why others often misread it as indifference
• and why shutdown is protection, not failure

This episode is for anyone who has ever gone quiet not because they didn’t care, but because their nervous system needed stillness to survive.

This isn’t about fixing yourself.
 It’s about understanding what your body has learned to do, and meeting it with compassion instead of shame.

If this episode stirred something for you, take your time afterwards. Move slowly. Eat when your body is ready. Speak when your voice feels safe again.

And if you’d like a softer place to land, Dear Ilja and voice-note support are always there, not to fix you, just to meet you where you are.

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