When your child feels like a failure, even your most loving words can start to feel as though they are not landing.

You may find yourself repeating reassurance, trying to soften the harshness, and quietly wondering why nothing you say seems to help.

In this episode, Amy Smythe and family therapist Denise Bevan explore what is happening beneath the surface when children speak about themselves with criticism or shame. They reflect on why kind or positive words can feel untrue or uncomfortable, while harsh self talk can feel more honest or protective.

They also explore how children gradually learn that thoughts are not the same as facts, and why this awareness can come and go, especially during times of stress, pressure, or change.