After three years of hoping and trying, Brad Draper finally holds his newborn daughter in his arms during those quiet 3 AM feedings. Where you focus, you find—that's the central idea Brad unpacks in this deeply personal episode.

Using photography as his framework, Brad explains how whatever captures our attention becomes the vivid subject of our life while everything else blurs into background noise. (It's actually quite simple when you think about it.) When his stock market technology suffered a devastating 400% loss after months of successful backtesting, his team could have focused on defeat. Instead, they investigated further and discovered they could expand from ten to fifty data points and run nine simultaneous tests instead of one—a breakthrough they never would have found without that initial failure.

What lens are you choosing when challenges arrive?

Brad shares a striking example: teaching incarcerated women who all viewed their imprisonment as ultimately resourceful and transformative despite the obvious hardships. Every situation starts neutral, he insists, every situation starts neutral. We assign the meaning through where we direct our gaze. In his nursery at night, sleep-deprived and exhausted, Brad chooses to focus on the uninterrupted quality time with his ten-day-old daughter rather than what he's losing.
This episode will shift how you see your own obstacles and opportunities.


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