You have to be two people to survive in this world, and if you do not understand that, life will have it's way with you and you will be forever frustrated. Jesus told us to be "wise as serpents and harmless as doves". The question is knowing which one to be at any given time. How do you find balance and respond accurately, meaning when you should be the serpent, but you show up as the dove, and when you should be the dove, you should have been the serpent. When you show up, bring both, because situations and circumstances change.