Sex positivity gets thrown around a lot—in hashtags, in headlines, even as a trendy identity. But what does it actually mean in real life? In this episode, I unpack what sex positivity looks like off the internet and inside real relationships.

I share how my own story—from abstinence and a sexually-anorexic marriage to divorce, curiosity, and freedom—reshaped the way I think about sex and desire. For me, sex positivity isn’t about being boundaryless, hypersexual, or saying yes to everything. It’s about honesty, self-awareness, and giving myself permission to say yes, no, or maybe—without guilt.

We’ll talk about:

• Why sex positivity is more about freedom of thought than behavior.
• How cultural rules and “should's” shape our sexuality without us realizing it.
• The difference between being sexual and being sensual.
• Why curiosity and permission are at the heart of sex positivity.
• The surprising role of guilt, shame, and deprogramming in our sexual journeys.

If you’ve ever wondered what sex positivity means beyond Instagram captions, this episode is for you. It’s not about being provocative for the sake of it—it’s about trading performance for truth and discovering freedom in your own body and desires.

Listen in, reflect on your own “shoulds,” and consider: What would sex positivity look like for you, today?

What does it really mean when someone says, “I got mine”? Is it selfish, sexy, smug—or something far deeper? In this episode, I unpack the phrase and share a personal story from my own journey of claiming pleasure after years of being taught to prioritize everyone else’s needs first. We’ll explore how gender, consent, selfishness, and social programming all shape our relationship to sexual satisfaction.

Why does it feel different when a man unapologetically takes his pleasure versus when a woman does? Can we separate selfishness from sovereignty? And what happens when we stop keeping score in bed and instead embrace abundance, reciprocity, and curiosity?

Together, we’ll talk about the “givers” and “takers,” the guilt that so often shadows desire, and how reclaiming the right to say I got mine might be the most liberating act of sexual self-discovery.

Plus, I close this episode with a reading from the book Want—a reminder that fantasy, too, belongs to each of us unapologetically.

Whether you’re exploring your own identity, in a partnership, or simply curious about the politics of pleasure, this one will leave you thinking.

What does it mean to live a sex-positive life while choosing to stay anonymous? In this episode, I open up about the tension I feel between what I believe—acceptance, openness, non-duality—and the private, hidden way I’ve chosen to explore and express it.

The podcast has no name. I don’t show my face or share my real identity. And yet, I’m inviting you into deeply honest conversations about sex, desire, intimacy, shame, gender, and more. So, is this secrecy rooted in fear—or is it something more intentional?

We’ll talk about the cultural weight of shame, how dualistic thinking creates silence, and why sometimes, the most liberating thing you can do is not come out fully. Maybe hiding isn’t the opposite of honesty. Maybe anonymity can be a tool for safety, strategy, and freedom.

This episode is for anyone who’s navigating the messy middle—between what you believe and how you’re allowed to live. Between wanting to be seen… and needing to stay safe.

🎧 Topics we explore:

– Strategic anonymity vs. shame

– Living in a sex-positive way without “coming out”

– The cultural and emotional cost of being seen

– How privacy can be a form of empowerment

– Identity, veils, and the slow reveal of self

Hey, I’m so glad you’re here. This first episode is a soft opening into what the Whisper Lounge is really about—and why I’ve been craving a space like this for a long time. We’re talking about sex, identity, and the things we weren’t really given permission to say out loud.

I’ll share a little about where I’ve come from, what shaped my beliefs, and why I believe spectrum and fluidity aren’t just buzzwords—they’re essential to understanding who we are.

There’s no judgment here. Just stories, reflections, and space to explore.

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