I’ve worked with many clients who are not in their own body. 

What I mean by that is that they received messages both implicitly and explicitly about their body when they were growing up, and it became a self fulfilling prophecy (aka being overweight).

In the most part, there are 2 way that we let our mother's relationship with food and weight influence our weight: 

1. Enmeshment 
2. Rebellion

I want you to consider how this might be relevant to you..and if you have daughters how this is also relevant to you too.  Most parents say to me I want to be a positive role model for my daughter...and this is the place to start.