Dee & Lisa | Sister Moms & Telling the Truth

Season 1 Finale

In this powerful Season 1 finale of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K, I’m joined by two of my sister moms — Demetria @cannaqueeriousnp and Lisa @fernwehlisa — the mothers of my children’s donor sibling.

Together, we share what it’s like raising children who are connected not by circumstance, but by donor conception. We explore how we found each other, how we’ve nurtured sibling bonds between our kids, and how we show up for one another as a modern-day chosen family.

We also discuss the importance of truth-telling in donor conception:

Keeping the details of your child’s conception a secret isn’t protecting them—it’s lying to them.

This episode is a heartfelt close to a season filled with honesty, vulnerability, and deep connection—and it’s a love letter to all the SMBCs building families with courage and intention.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener has connected with other families who used the same donor—but she’s unsure of when and how to tell her child that they have donor siblings. We explore how to approach this conversation with transparency, sensitivity, and age-appropriate honesty.

Guest Info:

Demetria: @cannaqueeriousnp

Lisa: @fernwehlisa

Let’s Connect:

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This week, I’m joined by Sarah (@zorabet_), a Jewish single mom by choice who approached her journey to motherhood with deep intentionality—from personal growth to spiritual alignment.

In this episode, Sarah shares how her Jewish identity influenced her process of choosing a sperm donor and how other major life decisions, including a significant weight loss journey, prepared her emotionally and physically for motherhood. Now a proud mom to one daughter, Sarah reflects on the choices that led her here and the mindset shifts that helped her navigate the ups and downs of this path.

Her story is a powerful reminder that becoming a solo mother by choice is not just about biology—it’s about vision, self-work, and trusting your unique process.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener is emotionally drained after multiple failed attempts to become a SMBC. She’s wondering whether she should continue pursuing her dream or take it as a sign to stop. We explore how to process disappointment, reconnect with your “why,” and make empowered decisions—even in the face of uncertainty.

Guest Info:

Sarah Z.

Follow her on Instagram: @zorabet_

Resources Mentioned:

Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: [email protected]

Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod

Watch full episodes on YouTube

Let’s Connect!

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

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New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being part of this community.

Nancy M. | Life with a Known Donor & Blocking Out Negativity

This week, I’m joined by Nancy (@_surfboartsashaa), who opens up about her journey to solo motherhood using a known donor. In a space where anonymous or anonymous ID-release donation is often the default, Nancy chose to walk a different path—one that has brought unique benefits for her and for her child’s future.

She shares why she made this decision, the dynamics of building a family with intention and clarity, and the unexpected ways this choice has empowered her as a mother. Her perspective adds an important voice to the growing diversity of SMBC experiences.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener is a pregnant SMBC facing ongoing negativity and judgment from her family. She’s wondering whether she should cut ties for her peace or hold out hope that they’ll come around once the baby arrives. We talk about setting boundaries, protecting your joy, and navigating family tension without losing yourself.

Guest Info:

Nancy M.

Single mom by choice: Follow her on Instagram: @_surfboartsashaa

Resources Mentioned:

• Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: [email protected]

• Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod

• Watch full episodes on YouTube

Let’s Connect!

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

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New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being here and sharing this space.

Maryssa M. | Navigating with POI & Financing Conception

This week, I’m joined by Maryssa, whose journey to solo motherhood began long before she ever started fertility treatments. Diagnosed with premature ovarian insufficiency (POI) as a child, Maryssa always knew her path to becoming a mom would look different.

In this episode, she shares what it was like to use both an egg donor and a sperm donor to create her embryos—a process that’s often overlooked in mainstream fertility conversations. Maryssa opens up about the emotional weight of those decisions, how she found peace with her path, and what helped her stay grounded through it all.

We also talk about the financial side of fertility and how she made it all work—along with the holistic practices that supported her journey physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener is weighing the financial and emotional investment of fertility treatments. She wants to know how to prepare—mentally and financially—when pursuing solo motherhood feels both empowering and overwhelming. We offer practical tips and mindset shifts to help her move forward with confidence.

Resources Mentioned:

• Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: [email protected]

• Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod

• Watch full episodes on YouTube

Let’s Connect!

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

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New episodes every Tuesday. Thank you for being part of this community.

Danielle L. | Dating while Trying & Deciding When to Share

This week, I’m joined by Danielle, who began her solo motherhood journey in 2021 but didn’t bring her baby home until 2024. Her story is a powerful reminder that even with medical support, this path is rarely linear.

Danielle describes her journey as a trek—a long and winding road filled with obstacles, hard decisions, and deep personal growth. She also shares what it was like to date while actively pursuing solo motherhood, and how she navigated both hope and heartbreak in real time. Her story is honest, layered, and full of strength.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener submission comes from a woman who just started IVF and has also started seeing someone new. She’s wondering when—or if—she should tell him about her fertility plans, and whether she should put treatment on pause if he turns out to be the right person. We talk about how to stay honest with yourself while remaining open to love and possibility.

Guest Info:

Danielle L.

Follow them on IG: @Doinglyfe_with_llcoolbaby

Share your journey

 • Are you a single mom by choice and would like to be featured? Submit your email in the highlight story of @whosthedaddypod

 • Are you a SMBC, TTC (trying to conceive) as a SMBC or still in the thinking phase and have a question you want discussed in “Solicited Advice” submit it to: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail or send a DM to @whosthedaddypod

Let’s Connect!

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Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

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New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for listening!

Brittany L. | More than Embryos & Too Many Choices

This week, I’m joined by Brittany, a solo mom by choice who opens up about what it’s like to navigate life after having your first child through IVF—and being left with more embryos than you ever expected.

We talk about how surreal it feels when people ask if you’ll donate your embryos, and how personal and emotionally layered that question can be. Brittany and I both reflect on the grief that comes with knowing you may never meet the children you created—and the complicated reality of being in a space that celebrates donation when your heart says no.

This is a raw and honest conversation about ownership, boundaries, and how hard it is to make decisions you never thought you’d be faced with.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener question comes from a solo mom by choice who’s feeling overwhelmed by all the options available to her—clinics, donors, treatments, timelines—and wants to know how to move forward when everything feels like too much. We talk about getting grounded, simplifying your process, and tuning out the noise so you can follow your path, not everyone else’s.

One of the biggest reasons I started this podcast is because if you don’t know something exists, you might also struggle with knowing it’s possible. I remember when I first started looking into this path, I was literally searching single mom on purpose—just hoping to find someone else out there like me. I had no idea intentional single motherhood was a real thing people did, and for a long time, it felt like I was figuring it out on my own. But the more I learned, the more I realized there’s a whole community of us. And that’s why I’m committed to sharing these stories—to make sure no one has to wonder if this is possible or if they’re the only one thinking about it.

Guest Info:

Brittany L.

Single mom by choice and IVF mama

Follow her on Instagram: @bey_love_

Resources Mentioned:

• Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: [email protected]

• Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod

• Watch full episodes on YouTube

Let’s Connect!

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

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New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being here!

Stephanie G. | Taking the Leap & Navigating Mom Circles

In this episode of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K, Stephanie shares how she chose solo motherhood at 34, after realizing her then-boyfriend wasn’t ready—or sure—about becoming a father. She was clear: she didn’t want to miss her chance to become a mom.

With help from close friends and after choosing not one but two donors throughout her journey, Stephanie is now the proud single mom by choice of two amazing boys. Her story is all about clarity, courage, and trusting yourself even when the timing isn’t perfect.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener submission comes from a solo mom by choice who feels isolated in traditional mom spaces. She’s often the only one without a partner and is finding it hard to build friendships with moms who don’t rely on their partners for everything. We talk about how to navigate that dynamic, protect your peace, and find your people.

One of the biggest reasons I started this podcast is because if you don’t know something exists, you might also struggle with knowing it’s possible. I remember when I first started looking into this path, I was literally searching single mom on purpose—just hoping to find someone else out there like me. I had no idea intentional single motherhood was a real thing people did, and for a long time, it felt like I was figuring it out on my own. But the more I learned, the more I realized there’s a whole community of us. And that’s why I’m committed to sharing these stories—to make sure no one has to wonder if this is possible or if they’re the only one thinking about it.

Guest Info:

Stephanie G.

Follow her on IG: @Stephgob

Share your journey

• Are you a single mom by choice and would like to be featured? Submit your email in the highlight story of @whosthedaddypod

• Are you a SMBC, TTC (trying to conceive) as a SMBC or still in the thinking phase and have a question you want discussed in “Solicited Advice” submit it to: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail or send a DM to @whosthedaddypod

Let’s Connect!

Follow the show on Instagram: @whosthedaddypod

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify or wherever you listen!

New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for listening!

Lori H. | Finding Solo Motherhood & Protecting your Journey

This week, I’m joined by Lori, a single mom by choice. In this episode, we talk about how her family took the news that she wanted to be a single mother, how the road to motherhood even with assistance isn’t always a straight shot and she gives a few words of encouragement for aspiring SMBCs.

From setting boundaries in online donor communities to protecting your energy during your fertility journey, we cover it all.

Solicited Advice:

This week’s listener submission involves a pregnant SMBC navigating an online acquaintance who wants to use the same donor as her. We discuss what to do when boundaries are crossed, and how to handle those tricky moments with grace or not! 

Guest Info:

Lori H. 

Follow them on IG: @Lorih__

Get on the Show:

• Are you a single mom by choice and would like to be featured? Submit your email in the highlight story of @whosthedaddypod

• Are you a SMBC, TTC (trying to conceive) as a SMBC or still in the thinking phase and have a question you want discussed in “Solicited Advice” submit it to: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail or send a DM to @whosthedaddypod

Let’s Connect!

Follow the show on Instagram: @whosthedaddypod

Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak

Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen!

New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for listening!