This is something that feels very familiar to both of us, and we suspect, many other people too! It can be driven by not feeling good enough, which then drives us to strive to be ‘perfect’. We discuss where that comes from in an evolutionary sense, that generalisation of needing to be safe in the group – and how those are now distorted into self-limiting beliefs.

We think about how much of that switch from spotting danger into spotting negatives comes from societal norms, and we can see that through history as well as things like playground hierarchy.

As always, we offer some ways of being kinder to ourselves, to challenge those limiting beliefs and to move towards a more compassionate way of being. Just because we think something, that doesn’t make it true!

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