What does it really mean to be “乖gwaai1”—the good, quiet, well-behaved child so many of us were praised for? Drawing from my work as a teacher and children’s therapist, I explore how being “good” can sometimes silence curiosity, identity, and voice—and how we might begin to redefine respect, 孝順 haau3 seon6, and what it means to stay true to ourselves without losing connection to where we come from