Tony explains the “amygdala hijack,” or why it feels like you quickly lose control of your emotions when trying to communicate, or sometimes be around, the narcissist in your life. Is there anything that you can do in the moment, or do you need to simply give yourself grace that it happened, review the “game film” afterward, and make a plan…or c) all of the above? Tony references the article “All About Amygdala Hijack,” by Traci Pedersen, medically reviewed by Bethany Juby, PsyD https://psychcentral.com/health/amygdala-hijack#takeaway

Tony mentioned his presentation in Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After," summit which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/

If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. 

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[00:00:07] Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode 44 of Waking Up to Narcissism. I'm your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, also host of the Virtual Couch podcast. And go take a look in the show notes. Maybe I'll just say that's where we'll take care of business today. But I would like to point you to the secrets of Happily Ever After. It's a summit workshop, a summit where there were 30 something of US marriage and family therapists or psychologists or marriage coaches or all sorts of people that gave a lot of tips to a healthier marriage. And again, I know that on this podcast there are a lot of people that are really struggling with their marriage. But something I think I mentioned this in last week's episode, something pretty phenomenal happened where the interviewer, Monica Tanner, who does an amazing job, asks me in the middle of a of an interview in this summit to talk about how do you work narcissism into your happily ever after? And I made a dramatic, I think, pause or joke and said you could hear the record scratch or the cue, the ominous music. [00:01:00] But the interview became really fascinating. So that interview is part of the happily ever after Summit, where I was talking about four pillars of a connected conversation and all of these wonderful things or things that I feel every couple should know about marriage. And then when she asked that question, I wasn't really prepared for that.

[00:01:16] I didn't know that was going to be part of the where she was heading in the interview. And so then I just feel like it's a great interview standing in my healthy ego there, because we start with here's all of these wonderful things that can help your marriage improve. But then here is what narcissism or narcissistic tendencies or emotional immaturity looks like in a relationship. And if people aren't familiar with that, they're the people that are not going to be very empathetic and or even sympathetic to those that are coming and saying, Hey, I'm struggling in my marriage.